Anonymous
Post 05/15/2025 06:58     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..

Compromise. Can you two agree upon 3-4x a week?

This all sounds super transactional.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2025 06:23     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
So he’s willing to do 7 times a week and you’re willing to do 4 times a week. You’re only 3 days apart. Can’t you guys compromise with 5-6 times a week?
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2025 06:11     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
He’s already cheating

Make sure you are on the pill.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2025 05:35     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Get ready for him to cheat.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2025 02:50     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Without being explicit, is the sex just as pleasurable for you as it is for him? You mentioned being sore, and him still wanting access to your body. I wouldn't want to have sex if my partner was experiencing discomfort, so that's a little concerning to me. I would focus on lowering the frequency and having him focus on things solely pleasurable for you, so you aren't experiencing pain.
ZachF
Post 05/15/2025 00:09     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Most married men can only dream about 3-4 times a week. That's plenty and I'm saying that as a man. Anticipation makes it more exciting. He needs to learn how to woo you on those down days and not act like a pouty beyatch. Let him know what a turn-off that is.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2025 23:42     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did he react?


I’ve posted how he reacted. He isn’t happy with me wanting less sex.
Easy solution, BJ for the extra time per week you don’t want. Should be no soreness.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2025 22:56     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Anonymous wrote:How did he react?


I’ve posted how he reacted. He isn’t happy with me wanting less sex.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2025 22:52     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
How did he react?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2025 22:35     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your DH is being selfish.


I agree. I’m sore and exhausted. He is happy with 1-2 times a day. I’m happy with 3-4 times a week. He doesn’t want anything less than 5 times a week.


You two are very close in expectations! Usually when people post about differing sex drives here they are a factor of ten apart. This is something that can’t be that hard to work out and it’s going to change with time and circumstances anyway. What will matter isn’t what you agree on right now, it’s how you work together to solve it.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2025 22:28     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Anonymous wrote:Your DH is being selfish.


I agree. I’m sore and exhausted. He is happy with 1-2 times a day. I’m happy with 3-4 times a week. He doesn’t want anything less than 5 times a week.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2025 22:27     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have been trying to strengthen our marriage after putting it on the back burner with back to back pregnancies and young kids. We have been having very frequent sex at his request but I’m so over it. I would be much happier with less frequency. I told him we should dial it down and he isn’t happy with it. WWYD?


Troll harder?


Not a troll.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2025 22:25     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Your DH is being selfish.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2025 22:23     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
Anonymous wrote:We have been trying to strengthen our marriage after putting it on the back burner with back to back pregnancies and young kids. We have been having very frequent sex at his request but I’m so over it. I would be much happier with less frequency. I told him we should dial it down and he isn’t happy with it. WWYD?


Troll harder?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2025 22:22     Subject: I told DH I want less sex..
We have been trying to strengthen our marriage after putting it on the back burner with back to back pregnancies and young kids. We have been having very frequent sex at his request but I’m so over it. I would be much happier with less frequency. I told him we should dial it down and he isn’t happy with it. WWYD?