Anonymous
05/10/2025 21:31
Subject: Mom question
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I have enough detailed info about your mom and her dynamic with you to guess, but my mom does this and here is my best guess as to why -
Everything is a power struggle. My mom has serious trust issues with people, some more so than others, but there is an overall pattern of distrust and aggression. When I ask her the most simple question, from when I was a young child until now, I will be met with the silent treatment, a glare, or a curt “I will tell you later”. Examples include me asking “mom?” “Can I have so and so’s address?” “What are you doing this week?” “Where were you?” “How come your late?”
If I ask her why she behaves this way she will get very upset and say I am aggressive and hostile (when it appears she is the one actually behaving this way).
It’s so difficult and as a result I learned try my best not to ask her questions as an adult to keep the peace. This too can get used against me though.
If my mom is in a rare good mood she may answer a question and even talk about what she has been up to, especially if it’s a topic she wants to demonstrate she knows a lot about.
She sounds as if she has the mild to moderate paranoia that comes with certain forms of autism. There is also well-known paranoia (that can become much more severe) in untreated biploar disorder and schizophrenia, but you'd have noticed by now if she had either of those two diseases.
What is the disorder where people read a few sentences on the internet and think they can diagnose strangers?
Anonymous
05/10/2025 20:44
Subject: Mom question
Anonymous wrote:My parents live in an apartment but own 2 homes elsewhere and travel internationally. When I ask my mom for her address, she doesn’t want to answer me initially! Does she view it as I’m trying to overpower her? Why won’t she give me her address?
Hell if I know. Why are you asking me?
Anonymous
05/10/2025 20:42
Subject: Re:Mom question
Maybe the residence they spend the most time in is not their primary residence of record for tax purposes and she’s afraid of admitting it?
Maybe your parents secretly split up and she doesn’t want you to realize they aren’t living together?
Maybe your parents secretly split up and she doesn’t want you to realize they aren’t living together?
Anonymous
05/10/2025 19:55
Subject: Mom question
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I have enough detailed info about your mom and her dynamic with you to guess, but my mom does this and here is my best guess as to why -
Everything is a power struggle. My mom has serious trust issues with people, some more so than others, but there is an overall pattern of distrust and aggression. When I ask her the most simple question, from when I was a young child until now, I will be met with the silent treatment, a glare, or a curt “I will tell you later”. Examples include me asking “mom?” “Can I have so and so’s address?” “What are you doing this week?” “Where were you?” “How come your late?”
If I ask her why she behaves this way she will get very upset and say I am aggressive and hostile (when it appears she is the one actually behaving this way).
It’s so difficult and as a result I learned try my best not to ask her questions as an adult to keep the peace. This too can get used against me though.
If my mom is in a rare good mood she may answer a question and even talk about what she has been up to, especially if it’s a topic she wants to demonstrate she knows a lot about.
She sounds as if she has the mild to moderate paranoia that comes with certain forms of autism. There is also well-known paranoia (that can become much more severe) in untreated biploar disorder and schizophrenia, but you'd have noticed by now if she had either of those two diseases.
Anonymous
05/10/2025 19:23
Subject: Mom question
Mine is reverse and sometimes I don't want to give my mom my address, bc she mails so much random stuff and maybe we won't be there. She asks for our travel schedule but I never know it much in advance. She'll send stuff that just sits there and then she gets mad even tho I told her not to send it!
So I got a box from anytimemail they're all over the US around $10/month plus they send you pics of every mail item that comes in and will mail it to you at any location. Maybe just buy her a mailbox?
So I got a box from anytimemail they're all over the US around $10/month plus they send you pics of every mail item that comes in and will mail it to you at any location. Maybe just buy her a mailbox?
Anonymous
05/10/2025 15:03
Subject: Mom question
What do you mean that you ask her for her address? Have you never visited them? Are you asking to know where they are now or an actual address to mail them something?
Anonymous
05/10/2025 14:53
Subject: Mom question
The address of their primary residence or the address of one of the 2nd homes?
This is odd either way thoigh
This is odd either way thoigh
Anonymous
05/10/2025 14:37
Subject: Mom question
I don’t think I have enough detailed info about your mom and her dynamic with you to guess, but my mom does this and here is my best guess as to why -
Everything is a power struggle. My mom has serious trust issues with people, some more so than others, but there is an overall pattern of distrust and aggression. When I ask her the most simple question, from when I was a young child until now, I will be met with the silent treatment, a glare, or a curt “I will tell you later”. Examples include me asking “mom?” “Can I have so and so’s address?” “What are you doing this week?” “Where were you?” “How come your late?”
If I ask her why she behaves this way she will get very upset and say I am aggressive and hostile (when it appears she is the one actually behaving this way).
It’s so difficult and as a result I learned try my best not to ask her questions as an adult to keep the peace. This too can get used against me though.
If my mom is in a rare good mood she may answer a question and even talk about what she has been up to, especially if it’s a topic she wants to demonstrate she knows a lot about.
Everything is a power struggle. My mom has serious trust issues with people, some more so than others, but there is an overall pattern of distrust and aggression. When I ask her the most simple question, from when I was a young child until now, I will be met with the silent treatment, a glare, or a curt “I will tell you later”. Examples include me asking “mom?” “Can I have so and so’s address?” “What are you doing this week?” “Where were you?” “How come your late?”
If I ask her why she behaves this way she will get very upset and say I am aggressive and hostile (when it appears she is the one actually behaving this way).
It’s so difficult and as a result I learned try my best not to ask her questions as an adult to keep the peace. This too can get used against me though.
If my mom is in a rare good mood she may answer a question and even talk about what she has been up to, especially if it’s a topic she wants to demonstrate she knows a lot about.
Anonymous
05/10/2025 14:15
Subject: Mom question
Bizarre. Presumably she doesn't trust you. Have you or one of your nuclear family done something that would cause her to feel that way? Do you think she's experiencing paranoia?
It's an odd situation and I think only you can answer your question.
It's an odd situation and I think only you can answer your question.
Anonymous
05/10/2025 13:43
Subject: Mom question
How do you not know their addresses? Maybe they’re hiding something from you.
Anonymous
05/10/2025 13:40
Subject: Mom question
You're worried you're going to be screwed in the will?
Anonymous
05/10/2025 13:39
Subject: Mom question
"For safety reasons, I need the address of your apartment and two homes. Thank you."
If she's traveling, it's nice if you could get an itinerary with hotel and flight info, but if she hasn't prepared one for herself, she's not going to write one out just for you.
If she's traveling, it's nice if you could get an itinerary with hotel and flight info, but if she hasn't prepared one for herself, she's not going to write one out just for you.
Anonymous
05/10/2025 13:37
Subject: Re:Mom question
She’s distancing herself from you because you can’t ask her simple questions, like “why won’t you give me your address”
Anonymous
05/10/2025 12:50
Subject: Re:Mom question
She doesn’t know which one to tell you.
Anonymous
05/10/2025 12:30
Subject: Mom question
My parents live in an apartment but own 2 homes elsewhere and travel internationally. When I ask my mom for her address, she doesn’t want to answer me initially! Does she view it as I’m trying to overpower her? Why won’t she give me her address?