Anonymous wrote:I don't envy the boss in this scenario. The 30 yo woman sounds hysterical, the OP is incredibly punitive and operates on a hair trigger, and the contractor is a harassing moron.

Idiots all around. What an office.

Given how OP appears to be acting, I suspect he was pretty hostile with her and that's why she went to the boss.

This sounds like a problem with the contractor and not the woman who gave him your number. Yes, it's bad that she gave him your number but how was she to know he would harass you?

OP I would not get the dumb witch fired, but I would get her formally reprimanded and a letter put in her permanent file.

I don't envy the boss in this scenario. The 30 yo woman sounds hysterical, the OP is incredibly punitive and operates on a hair trigger, and the contractor is a harassing moron.

Idiots all around. What an office.

If you think you have the clout to get her fired... you're extremely stupid for wasting that "clout" on a nothingburger. Goodwill can evaporate quickly in an office setting, particularly when the favors asked are destructive instead of constructive.

If I were your superior, after listening to that story, I'd lose respect for you if you asked me to fire this woman. I would be willing, at your request, to upbraid her for sharing your private contact information, and for leveling empty accusations of not being a team player. She does sound weird. But you sound like an angry maniac, and that's worse for my work environment.

I completely understand that you wouldn't want your private number out there, and you certainly have a good reason to nicely tell your coworker not to do that again, and to tell the contractor that this private number should not have been given to him.

But... the contractor didn't interrupt anything, since you didn't even pick up, OP. When phones ring like this, people turn them off. When I go to Mass or similar event, I turn off my phone, or at least silence it. No call has ever disturbed any of our parties or social gatherings, since I just click the phone off when it starts to ring and go on singing Happy Birthday.

Why did you reply so virulently that your poor coworker was moved to fight back? Why are you so riled up and aggressive? Your overreaction is disturbing. The only acceptable reason why you would escalate is if the coworker had a history of crossing boundaries, taking you for granted and whining to the boss. But you didn't mention that in your first post, so I think you're out of line here.

You really need to get your entitlement and anger problem in check.

Talk with your boss and let him/her know it's inappropriate for a co-worker to give out your personal cell number to a contractor.

A contractor shouldn't be allowed to contact you directly on your personal device to promote their bid. That seems like a problem if other contractors don't also have the same opportunity.

I wouldn't go into the "not a team player" complaint or how it cut into your weekend.

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Anonymous wrote:Demanding her to be fired seems a bit much. Definitely need to discuss this with your boss that it can't happen again, but using your clout to "teach her a lesson" isn't really a good look.

Agreed. Also, take a moment to ask yourself why you judge this woman's life so harshly. Also not a good look.

Not to mention his over exaggerating of how this ruined his weekend. He didn't even take the calls and then blocked him. If his phone ringing caused him to ignore his wife's birthday, he has issues. He sounds like a ahole guy who doesn't like that a younger female complained about him. Probably doesn't even have the clout he thinks he has.

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Anonymous wrote:If you would try to get her fired over this maybe you aren’t a team player?

Oh, you work 7 days a week? Take calls during church? Ignore your wife's birthday and you son's at bats? You sound like a great husband and father.

You sound like a jerk. Ignored your wife's birthday? Took calls at church? Missed your kids at bats? Yeah right. You didn't even answer the calls. If your kid was at bat you should have let the phone ring without checking the caller ID. Don't know why you would have your phone on at Church. You're over exaggerating

Anonymous wrote:Demanding her to be fired seems a bit much. Definitely need to discuss this with your boss that it can't happen again, but using your clout to "teach her a lesson" isn't really a good look.

Agreed. Also, take a moment to ask yourself why you judge this woman's life so harshly. Also not a good look.

Why does your coworker have your personal phone number? Only give out your work number, and turn it off and don’t look at it on the weekend.

Demanding her to be fired seems a bit much. Definitely need to discuss this with your boss that it can't happen again, but using your clout to "teach her a lesson" isn't really a good look.

Anonymous wrote:If you would try to get her fired over this maybe you aren’t a team player?

Oh, you work 7 days a week? Take calls during church? Ignore your wife's birthday and you son's at bats? You sound like a great husband and father.

If you would try to get her fired over this maybe you aren’t a team player?

And he called me 14 times over the weekend without leaving a voicemail. I thought it was spam because he wasn't in my contacts and I don't take work calls on the weekend even if I did know.

He eventually texted me 3 huge multi-paragraphs texts on Sunday asking about his bid, other potential bids, how great he is etc. So, I blocked him.

Contractor reaches out to the coworker that gave him my number and asks whats up. She comes over to me today and asks why I'm 'ignoring' him. I ask her if she the one who gave him my personal cell and she says yes.

I tell her not to ever do that again as the guy interrupted my wife's birthday, my son's double header baseball game, my Mass on Sunday and just my general peace on the weekend.

She turns around and tells our boss that I'm not a team player.

She is 30, single, no kids, no pets, no hobbies, no nothing.
I have the clout to demand her firing.

Would you give this moron a second chance or do I teach her a life lesson?