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Anonymous wrote:My DC got in. I am worried about burn out and stress. I am wondering if this is worth it. Looking for perspectives.

If you don't let your child try, what if your child blames you in the future. If it turns out to be a bad fit, just transfer back to the base school. You child will at least gain some resilience.
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1155572.page

why sockpuppet posting a message there and then link it here, and then bump it there?

Anonymous wrote:My DC got in. I am worried about burn out and stress. I am wondering if this is worth it. Looking for perspectives.

If you don't let your child try, what if your child blames you in the future. If it turns out to be a bad fit, just transfer back to the base school. You child will at least gain some resilience.
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1155572.page

Anonymous wrote:My kid is totally not stressed getting a mix of Bs and As was at risk of a few Cs at one point. I'd love it if he were more stressed but here we are.

This was me decades ago and it was a great experience. Do not regret one bit.

And yes, I sailed through academically before TJ.

If student lacks confidence to do well at TJ, it doesn't make sense to convince them to join TJ and accept bunch of Cs. Base school may be better option where they can get relatively better grades and have time for other activities like sports.

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. my kid has all As in Middle school. She is a hardworking student but not competitive. I don’t know if the environment of peers who are very competitive will demotivate and cause stress

DC is ready to work hard and grind to keep her grades up at TJ.

Honestly, if your kid is even a bit academically curious, willing to work hard and has standardized test scores that have always been 95th percentile or higher, then I would encourage them to go. If they are missing any of these three things, I'd think about it a little harder.

Stress arises when a student struggles to handle TJ rigor, not because their peers perform better.

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. my kid has all As in Middle school. She is a hardworking student but not competitive. I don’t know if the environment of peers who are very competitive will demotivate and cause stress

DC is ready to work hard and grind to keep her grades up at TJ.

If so, then don’t stress and let her try.

My kid sailed from k-8 all A without trying. And he finally got B in TJ (still half a$$ studying) he seems ok accepting different realities at TJ and not stress out, he sees his peers whose work harder than him are the same.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is totally not stressed getting a mix of Bs and As was at risk of a few Cs at one point. I'd love it if he were more stressed but here we are.

If you are OP then I would recommend not sending your kid. I think TJ tends to work best for kids that pretty easily got As in their base school.

I think this person meant that their kid is already at TJ and not stressed.

This is OP. my kid has all As in Middle school. She is a hardworking student but not competitive. I don’t know if the environment of peers who are very competitive will demotivate and cause stress

DC is ready to work hard and grind to keep her grades up at TJ.

Anonymous wrote:My kid is totally not stressed getting a mix of Bs and As was at risk of a few Cs at one point. I'd love it if he were more stressed but here we are.

If you are OP then I would recommend not sending your kid. I think TJ tends to work best for kids that pretty easily got As in their base school.

Stress varies from student to student depends on their academic capabilities and time management skills. One student might get all As and still can afford time for extracurriculars and sports, and manage to be stress free. Whereas another could be stressful with Cs and Ds, and despite dropping sports and ECs, still struggle to get out of bad grades.

My kid is totally not stressed getting a mix of Bs and As was at risk of a few Cs at one point. I'd love it if he were more stressed but here we are.

There are several threads on this very topic in the archives.

If a student feels confident in handling the overall elevated course rigor and loves academic challenge, I’d say give TJ a try. Those who have enjoyed math and science challenges in middle school—through contests, competitions, or STEM activities—often thrive in TJ’s demanding environment. A bonus is the wide range of extracurriculars, clubs, and sports TJ offers, which students can explore and adjust based on their academic goals and future college plans.

My DC got in. I am worried about burn out and stress. I am wondering if this is worth it. Looking for perspectives.