Anonymous wrote:Let them

Zip it, Mel. What an idiotic theory.

Anonymous wrote:Just a vent. Nothing more. A mom I know posts on instagram “it’s not about having the highest paying job, it’s about having the job that allows you to be there for your children. Not miss the special moments!” Or something like that. One of those quotes that people copy and paste by “anonymous”. Meanwhile this woman is a SAHM and her husband makes 7 figures. Just so tone deaf and bizarre. Like lady you don’t even have a job , you are there for all of the special moments literally because your husband DID choose the highest paying job.

Vent over.

Wow, OP. Obviously that cut you deeply.

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Anonymous wrote:If someone's social media makes you feel ANY negative feelings, just block/hide them. Social media should make you feel positive feelings. If it doesn't, you're using it wrong.

+1. I snooze so many folks for 30 days on Facebook.

And I hide my cousin who only posts about craft beer, Disney and cats. Three things I have zero interest in. I also hide the HS friend who only posts asking people for money or help doing mundane things like throwing out his trash (?). I would have unfriended him but he's trans and I don't want to deal with him accusing me of being transphobic when I just dislike his personality.

Thanks guys, I know you’re all right! I only work part time and don’t make much - so theoretically her post should make me feel validated!- but it just annoyed me instead. Like she’s saying basically “yes you SHOULD step back and spend more time with your kids- it will all work out, see my awesome life? It worked out!” Sort of similar to someone saying “just get more sleep each night and you’ll feel better!” to a bunch of people who work 12 hour night shifts. Like yeah thanks no kidding- being rich AND not having to work really IS better!

Anonymous wrote:If someone's social media makes you feel ANY negative feelings, just block/hide them. Social media should make you feel positive feelings. If it doesn't, you're using it wrong.

+1. I snooze so many folks for 30 days on Facebook.

If raising kids is not a full time job then what are you paying daycare workers and nanny’s to do?

Even in families where a husband makes 7 figures there is whispering about wives not working. Especially among in-laws, colleagues, and even school moms. I’d bet she is trying to counter some pressure she feels. No one really values mom work. Also it’s very a risky choice because you may get screwed in a divorce as half people do. So she has reason to feel insecure. I don’t disagree with her sentiment as I am someone who earns much less to work part time, but I think women need to be careful about trusting a man to be a sole provider their whole lives. It rarely works out that way. Keep your toes in the career water while acknowledging the mom load is tremendous.

If someone's social media makes you feel ANY negative feelings, just block/hide them. Social media should make you feel positive feelings. If it doesn't, you're using it wrong.

Why don’t you post a response and say cheerfully that it’s great for spouse makes such a high salary enables her to stay home? Then you can add something fake like “sounds like you guys have it all figured out! So blessed!”

If she feels the need to post this she's probably feeling insecure about her friends who do have high paying jobs. Which is crazy when her spouse makes 7 figures, but you clearly don't post that sort of thing when you are secure in your decision making.

Let them

So she's showed you who she is (probably over and over again). Doesn't impact who you are. At all.

Social media is where it's really brought home to you that the average IQ is a 100.

^^ oh and it was not a snarky post referring to her husband missing kids events, I see how it could maybe be seen that way. Below it she talked about how she was so happy she had chosen her current path so she didn’t miss her kids milestones. It was about her.

Just a vent. Nothing more. A mom I know posts on instagram “it’s not about having the highest paying job, it’s about having the job that allows you to be there for your children. Not miss the special moments!” Or something like that. One of those quotes that people copy and paste by “anonymous”. Meanwhile this woman is a SAHM and her husband makes 7 figures. Just so tone deaf and bizarre. Like lady you don’t even have a job , you are there for all of the special moments literally because your husband DID choose the highest paying job.

Vent over.