Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 18:45     Subject: Re:I married money and regret it
Anonymous wrote:
He is an active father but sucks at anything house related. I do all the shopping, cooking, managing outsourcing crews, 95% of the childcare, scheduling/taking kids to appointments, handling childcare.

I work part time making 60k. He works full time and makes 400-500k a year.

I have full access to our money.

I just want him to step up more with the household labor. He has said he is busy working to support our family to give me the ability to stay home.


What’s active about his fathering? He does the fun stuff while you do all the grunt work?
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:47     Subject: Re:I married money and regret it
He has said he is busy working to support our family to give me the ability to stay home.


This is true

You married a certain man. He's not going to change. Deal with it.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:45     Subject: Re:I married money and regret it
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You haven't said anything that lets us offer helpful feedback.

What responsibility are you shouldering? How big a paycheck? What access do you have to the money he makes? ARE you expecting too much? Can't say without knowing what you expect.


He is an active father but sucks at anything house related. I do all the shopping, cooking, managing outsourcing crews, 95% of the childcare, scheduling/taking kids to appointments, handling childcare.

I work part time making 60k. He works full time and makes 400-500k a year.

I have full access to our money.

I just want him to step up more with the household labor. He has said he is busy working to support our family to give me the ability to stay home.

He’s not entirely wrong. Since you’re working part-time you have more time to spend on running the household. He probably still works longer hours than you.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:43     Subject: I married money and regret it
quit your job AND hire help. Then enjoy yourself when kids are school age
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:43     Subject: I married money and regret it
No you don’t regret it.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:41     Subject: Re:I married money and regret it
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You haven't said anything that lets us offer helpful feedback.

What responsibility are you shouldering? How big a paycheck? What access do you have to the money he makes? ARE you expecting too much? Can't say without knowing what you expect.


He is an active father but sucks at anything house related. I do all the shopping, cooking, managing outsourcing crews, 95% of the childcare, scheduling/taking kids to appointments, handling childcare.

I work part time making 60k. He works full time and makes 400-500k a year.

I have full access to our money.

I just want him to step up more with the household labor. He has said he is busy working to support our family to give me the ability to stay home.

Hire more help.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:40     Subject: I married money and regret it
Use his money to hire help and make your life comfortable.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:40     Subject: I married money and regret it
Hire help.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:37     Subject: Re:I married money and regret it
Anonymous wrote:You haven't said anything that lets us offer helpful feedback.

What responsibility are you shouldering? How big a paycheck? What access do you have to the money he makes? ARE you expecting too much? Can't say without knowing what you expect.


He is an active father but sucks at anything house related. I do all the shopping, cooking, managing outsourcing crews, 95% of the childcare, scheduling/taking kids to appointments, handling childcare.

I work part time making 60k. He works full time and makes 400-500k a year.

I have full access to our money.

I just want him to step up more with the household labor. He has said he is busy working to support our family to give me the ability to stay home.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:34     Subject: I married money and regret it
As others have said, money hires help. Why haven’t you?
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:33     Subject: Re:I married money and regret it
You haven't said anything that lets us offer helpful feedback.

What responsibility are you shouldering? How big a paycheck? What access do you have to the money he makes? ARE you expecting too much? Can't say without knowing what you expect.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:13     Subject: I married money and regret it
Hire help for the jobs you hate. That's why I have someone come in just to clean the bathrooms. I can handle the rest of the housework. Also, as much as I loved being home with the kids, I started them in part-time preschool at age 2. Just two or three half-days each week helped them with socialization and speech. For pre-k, they went 5 half-days per week. I still had plenty of time with them, but it's wonderful for someone else to take over part of the day.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:08     Subject: I married money and regret it

Agree.. Get a job and hire help.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:06     Subject: I married money and regret it
Get a nanny get a job fixed it for you
I he doesn’t like that idea do it anyway
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2025 17:04     Subject: I married money and regret it
I married mostly for a good life and regret it. I shoulder almost all of the responsibility with little help from my husband. He isn't on board with taking on any more work because he brings in the big paycheck. I don't want to divorce but I feel overwhelmed. I sometimes wonder if I'm the problem and just expect too much.