Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:49
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
Anonymous wrote:I don't know that she'll rebel, but it also seems like a dumb rule to enforce. It's hair. It grows out. The consequences of letting her do it are essentially nothing.
This.
My 19yo daughter has gorgeous blonde hair, she dyed the bottom 6" or so hot pink for her 10th birthday. I thought it was cute and fun. She's never touched it again.
I am a "pick my battles" parent, and this isn't one of them.
Piercing is also not one of my battles, thinking that making it no big deal would fend off excess. Spoiler alert... didn't work
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:48
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
I don’t really understand why you wouldn’t— because your mom wouldn’t let you dye your hair?
She’s growing up and it’s a harmless way to express who she is (unless you really don’t think it’s harmless, which is a different issue)
She’s growing up and it’s a harmless way to express who she is (unless you really don’t think it’s harmless, which is a different issue)
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:47
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
I personally try not to compare what I would’ve done as a kid versus what my kid would’ve done as a kid. We are totally separate people and that was 1 million years ago. (Well 35 years).
I also look at hair dye as something temporary, and it’s their head so I don’t really care if they wanna mess with it. Now, if it was a face tattoo or something like that, that’s more permanent, I would absolutely have more to say.
It’s good for them to learn now about how people will judge them with different clothing and hair, while the stakes are low
I also look at hair dye as something temporary, and it’s their head so I don’t really care if they wanna mess with it. Now, if it was a face tattoo or something like that, that’s more permanent, I would absolutely have more to say.
It’s good for them to learn now about how people will judge them with different clothing and hair, while the stakes are low
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:47
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
Anonymous wrote:Hair dye is such an innocent way to express once. As long as one makes sure it's all healthy, I'd let her. I never wanted to FWIW. But maybe my girls will want to.
This! I let my dd dye her hair because it’s fixable. She uses arctic Fox brand. I would much rather her do this than get a tattoo, but by the time she’s 18 I really won’t have a say.
What are you most worried about, op?
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:45
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
Anonymous wrote:I was raised conservatively and no way on earth would I have been allowed to dye my hair. My inclination is to not let my kid do it, but other parents are warning me that if I hold the line in this my DD will rebel in much worse ways. Really? DD is turning 13 soon and asking for bright pink hair for her birthday.
Should I relent and, if so, is there a less toxic way to do this? Potentially relevant: she's a swimmer so her curly hair is already a little fried from chlorine and swim caps. She wants multiple ear piercings as well but doesn't want to lose it on pool time, so that request is on hold for the moment.
Not a fight you want to pick, let them.
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:44
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
Hair dye is such an innocent way to express once. As long as one makes sure it's all healthy, I'd let her. I never wanted to FWIW. But maybe my girls will want to.
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:37
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
I would say no.
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:37
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
I don't know that she'll rebel, but it also seems like a dumb rule to enforce. It's hair. It grows out. The consequences of letting her do it are essentially nothing.
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:34
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
^ the 20 year old can do those things if they want and pay for it. But now they don't want.
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:34
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
It's how funny how there are so many "conservative" families in the world and yet the immense majority of their kids don't rebel when faced with loving boundaries, enough one-on-one parental attention, etc.
No piercings, no tattoos, no hair dye, for kids in my family. Somehow, I still get along great with my 14 and 20 year old kids.
No piercings, no tattoos, no hair dye, for kids in my family. Somehow, I still get along great with my 14 and 20 year old kids.
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:30
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
Semi permanent and over the summer.
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:29
Subject: Re:How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
There’s a semi-permanent line by L’Oréal called “Colorista.”
https://www.lorealparisusa.com/hair-color/semi-permanent/colorista-semi-permanent-hair-color
https://www.lorealparisusa.com/hair-color/semi-permanent/colorista-semi-permanent-hair-color
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:15
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
Anonymous wrote:I would point out that if she has dark hair she'll first have to bleach it to get the hot pink to look ... hot pink. I would not allow that.
If she has blonde hair I'd let her do it once over the summer.
Good point. It's light brown, what some might call dirty blonde when it gets lighter in summer.
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:13
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
I would point out that if she has dark hair she'll first have to bleach it to get the hot pink to look ... hot pink. I would not allow that.
If she has blonde hair I'd let her do it once over the summer.
If she has blonde hair I'd let her do it once over the summer.
Anonymous
04/24/2025 15:10
Subject: How much of a mistake is it to not let a 13 year old dye her hair?
I was raised conservatively and no way on earth would I have been allowed to dye my hair. My inclination is to not let my kid do it, but other parents are warning me that if I hold the line in this my DD will rebel in much worse ways. Really? DD is turning 13 soon and asking for bright pink hair for her birthday.
Should I relent and, if so, is there a less toxic way to do this? Potentially relevant: she's a swimmer so her curly hair is already a little fried from chlorine and swim caps. She wants multiple ear piercings as well but doesn't want to lose it on pool time, so that request is on hold for the moment.
Should I relent and, if so, is there a less toxic way to do this? Potentially relevant: she's a swimmer so her curly hair is already a little fried from chlorine and swim caps. She wants multiple ear piercings as well but doesn't want to lose it on pool time, so that request is on hold for the moment.