We pay for chores because it’s the only way to put money into a Roth account for our children.

Things that are mostly for my personal benefit I pay. (Weeding my roses.) things that are for the family I don’t (dishes, garbage, laundry, etc)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No chores for money.

Chores = being a part of the family

Weekly Allowance = being part of the family

It's not a good idea- we did try paying for chores once and DS started to think that anything he did around the house was a transaction. It taught the wrong values.

What are the right values? Because I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t go to work if you didn’t get paid for it.

Me doing chores is part of me living in a house. Ditto for my kids. My kid's job is to go to school. I pay him for that with ice cream for good grades.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No chores for money.

Chores = being a part of the family

Weekly Allowance = being part of the family

It's not a good idea- we did try paying for chores once and DS started to think that anything he did around the house was a transaction. It taught the wrong values.

What are the right values? Because I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t go to work if you didn’t get paid for it.

We do things to help each other out because we're a family and we all use the house and resources. Unloading a dishwasher, taking out the trash, folding laundry etc. are part of living in a household.

Chores are free labor and required in our household. We don’t make our kids work for something that they ask for. We decide if it’s worth paying for or not. “Hey, John is going to six flags, can I go?” I wouldn’t make him work for it. Just give him the money to go. If they ask for a MacBook, they too won’t work for it but it can be an only Christmas present. A part of having kids is being financially responsible for them.

I would love to do this.
If I could successfully implement it, I think my kids would appreciate more work, probably understand the reasons it’s annoying to make messes, and they’d handle their own wants.

But, I can’t get each of 3 kids to like the same system. And a different system for each would be unfair (and they would call it unfair).

Mine are 7-13 and they’re in a good place for this. I don’t have any 4yos anymore… but I can’t get it done.

Anonymous wrote:Jeez people took this as the opportunity to be sanctimonious. You know it is possible for your child to both have chores they have to do AND to have ways for them to work more and make more money. If they want to clean the whole house for $20, why in the world wouldn't you encourage that motivation and work ethic if you can afford the $20

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I don’t pay for regular chores, and if there’s something emergent that comes up I expect people to pitch in. Sometimes I have projects that I think are sort of extra or fall outside of what I think is reasonable to just expect. So I’ll offer that as an earning opportunity. When I was a kid I started babysitting at 11, but now it’s hard for under 15s to make any money where we live.

Anonymous wrote:We don't pay for chores - we all do chores as part of the family/household

Same. Everyone contributes to the running of the household.

Jeez people took this as the opportunity to be sanctimonious. You know it is possible for your child to both have chores they have to do AND to have ways for them to work more and make more money. If they want to clean the whole house for $20, why in the world wouldn't you encourage that motivation and work ethic if you can afford the $20

Anonymous wrote:No chores for money.

Chores = being a part of the family

Weekly Allowance = being part of the family

It's not a good idea- we did try paying for chores once and DS started to think that anything he did around the house was a transaction. It taught the wrong values.

What are the right values? Because I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t go to work if you didn’t get paid for it.

Wouldn't pay for chores. Chores are part of family living, no monetary rewards provided.

Perhaps pay for "extra work" beyond chores.
"Oh you want to earn some money? I want a garden tilled up, let's make a deal!"

No chores for money.

Chores = being a part of the family

Weekly Allowance = being part of the family

It's not a good idea- we did try paying for chores once and DS started to think that anything he did around the house was a transaction. It taught the wrong values.

We don't pay for chores - we all do chores as part of the family/household

Wash the car, pull weeds, pick up sticks, trim trees, mow the lawn, weed whack, detail the car, wash the windows, power washing, painting, deep clean the carpets, wash baseboards, clean the bathtub, clean the garage

Whatever I feel like paying them. We negotiate before they do it.

If you have a system for your kids to earn money by helping more around the house - what are the extra chores they can do and how much do those chores pay?