Anonymous wrote:You’re asking for the internet’s permission to cheat on a woman with cancer. Just sit for a moment with the fact that that’s where your life has gone.

+1.

So. I asked for therapy and she doesn’t want. I prefer not to divorce.

The honest thing is to divorce, but I don’t want it yet.

I see most people in unhappy marriages in that situation. If divorce and therapy are out of the menu of options, then what is the next step?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has cancer. She needs to be on my health insurance, so we can’t get divorced. There is nothing to talk about in therapy. I will just sound like an a$$hole.

Are you OP?

He is not.

hahaha I did not see the cancer thing coming. Genuine lol.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has cancer. She needs to be on my health insurance, so we can’t get divorced. There is nothing to talk about in therapy. I will just sound like an a$$hole.

It sounds like you really want to be told that it’s ok for you, in your oh so difficult circumstances, to cheat.

It’s not. You’re still the bad guy. We’re not here to excuse you. Talk to your spouse.

X100 🔥

Anonymous wrote:She has cancer. She needs to be on my health insurance, so we can’t get divorced. There is nothing to talk about in therapy. I will just sound like an a$$hole.

It sounds like you really want to be told that it’s ok for you, in your oh so difficult circumstances, to cheat.

It’s not. You’re still the bad guy. We’re not here to excuse you. Talk to your spouse.

You’re asking for the internet’s permission to cheat on a woman with cancer. Just sit for a moment with the fact that that’s where your life has gone.

Anonymous wrote:She has cancer. She needs to be on my health insurance, so we can’t get divorced. There is nothing to talk about in therapy. I will just sound like an a$$hole.

Are you OP?

She has cancer. She needs to be on my health insurance, so we can’t get divorced. There is nothing to talk about in therapy. I will just sound like an a$$hole.

You have to be honest with your spouse first.

Why is divorce or therapy not an option?

Why is therapy not an option?

I think this is something that should be discussed in therapy so your spouse knows you're at this point.

Use sex workers.

If divorce and therapy are not options, and I do need sex, under what circumstances cheating would be ok?