Anonymous
05/01/2025 10:50
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
Anonymous wrote:
They are usually more welcoming if DD performs well on the court.
Usually the other way around. They don’t want your child to take their kids spot .
Hahaha
There is definitely a pecking order on the teams. It gets kind of rough when a kid that is higher up on the pecking order isn't performing well, isn't behaving in practice not coming to practice and skills aren't as impressive as they used to be. Like usually bench players only get playing time in certain situations, playing a team the coach feels comfortable playing them. Then you drive all this way and the supposedly star kid is laying an egg and a team that your kid could easily handle so your kid has to sit the bench because the coach has to eek out a win, and you have to sit there and dodge the air balls on fast break three pointers.
Anonymous
04/30/2025 17:40
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
They are usually more welcoming if DD performs well on the court.
Usually the other way around. They don’t want your child to take their kids spot .
Hahaha
Yeah, this. Kids on my son’s first AAU team were nice until he played well.
Anonymous
04/30/2025 13:14
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
They are usually more welcoming if DD performs well on the court.
Usually the other way around. They don’t want your child to take their kids spot .
Hahaha
Anonymous
04/30/2025 11:44
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
My DC has been on the same AAU team for 5 years. It used to be very cliquey until 2 players specifically left. So much better now!
Anonymous
04/30/2025 11:37
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
Anonymous wrote:We left a team because no one was welcoming to my DD who was the only new player. It was a terrible experience. Parents were snotty too.
They are usually more welcoming if DD performs well on the court.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 11:56
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
We left a team because no one was welcoming to my DD who was the only new player. It was a terrible experience. Parents were snotty too.
Anonymous
04/27/2025 14:37
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's not as much about likeability as it is about being a known commodity. Few coaches will take a risk on displacing who they know for an unknown entity unless that entity is a STAR.
Our coach is perfectly happy with his year after year, repeat players even if they aren't that great. It has its positives and negatives. If you aren't happy, there is always the option to leave.
Some kids aren’t there to win or earn a scholarship to play in college. They just wanna play with their friends.
Also many of these coaches aren’t really worried about binging talented players in unless those players play a different position than their kid. And 80% of the time or better, the coaches kid will be the point guard.
That's why so many teams specialize in stealing the ball. As often as not it's the weakest link.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 19:14
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's not as much about likeability as it is about being a known commodity. Few coaches will take a risk on displacing who they know for an unknown entity unless that entity is a STAR.
Our coach is perfectly happy with his year after year, repeat players even if they aren't that great. It has its positives and negatives. If you aren't happy, there is always the option to leave.
Some kids aren’t there to win or earn a scholarship to play in college. They just wanna play with their friends.
Also many of these coaches aren’t really worried about binging talented players in unless those players play a different position than their kid. And 80% of the time or better, the coaches kid will be the point guard.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 18:12
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
Anonymous wrote:It's not as much about likeability as it is about being a known commodity. Few coaches will take a risk on displacing who they know for an unknown entity unless that entity is a STAR.
Our coach is perfectly happy with his year after year, repeat players even if they aren't that great. It has its positives and negatives. If you aren't happy, there is always the option to leave.
Some kids aren’t there to win or earn a scholarship to play in college. They just wanna play with their friends.
Anonymous
04/22/2025 13:48
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
It's not as much about likeability as it is about being a known commodity. Few coaches will take a risk on displacing who they know for an unknown entity unless that entity is a STAR.
Our coach is perfectly happy with his year after year, repeat players even if they aren't that great. It has its positives and negatives. If you aren't happy, there is always the option to leave.
Our coach is perfectly happy with his year after year, repeat players even if they aren't that great. It has its positives and negatives. If you aren't happy, there is always the option to leave.
Anonymous
04/21/2025 20:13
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
Anonymous wrote:Personality is a factor in team sports.
Some teams are pretty sub-optimally competitive. They are perfectly happy beating up on B-teamers/practice squads and never winning a game or being contenders.
I think it's a known commodity in most clubs, so better kids whose skills and physique innately cause personality conflicts with the queen bee, get bumped up to better teams.
Most be talking about northern Va teams.
Anonymous
04/21/2025 16:26
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
Personality is a factor in team sports.
Some teams are pretty sub-optimally competitive. They are perfectly happy beating up on B-teamers/practice squads and never winning a game or being contenders.
I think it's a known commodity in most clubs, so better kids whose skills and physique innately cause personality conflicts with the queen bee, get bumped up to better teams.
Some teams are pretty sub-optimally competitive. They are perfectly happy beating up on B-teamers/practice squads and never winning a game or being contenders.
I think it's a known commodity in most clubs, so better kids whose skills and physique innately cause personality conflicts with the queen bee, get bumped up to better teams.
Anonymous
04/02/2025 14:34
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
We are relatively new to basketball. My kid did not make a team last year. DS had complained about how X or Y made it over him because he knew the coach or was the coach’s son’s friend. I thought my son was just complaining about not making the team but he was totally right.
Anonymous
04/02/2025 14:32
Subject: In surprised how cliquey these basketball teams are
I had heard that you need to know the coach or that your kid should know the coach’s kid. So many of these teams have been together for so long. I don’t necessarily think it is about the ability but how much the coach likes you, and yes, the parents.
Now that my son finally got on a team, I realize how much the likability of kid and parents matter.
Now that my son finally got on a team, I realize how much the likability of kid and parents matter.