I’d let this one go. Of all the ways a MIL can be difficult, this seems like one of the least problematic ones.

Anonymous wrote:Is it a red baseball cap? Otherwise I doubt many people will care.

Lol agreed!

What kind of hat? Like a tiny fascinator or something bigger? And why do you care?

I know all these little things about the wedding seem important now, but at some point you will look back and truly not GAF. But if you end up with people's feelings getting hurt, people will remember that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Elegant hats are frequently worn to British weddings with very elegant, formal suits and dresses. She's probably seen those.

At 5pm, it isn't a formal wedding, so a hat would be fine with the semi-formal suit or dress.

Why does the time matter for whether a hat is appropriate ?

Have to say, this is a delightful thread. Of all the things to worry about.

Do you really not know?

6:00 pm is the cut-off time for hats, unless they are cocktail hats.

I thought everyone knew that.

SOOO, OP, your MIL is correct.

Anonymous wrote:Elegant hats are frequently worn to British weddings with very elegant, formal suits and dresses. She's probably seen those.

At 5pm, it isn't a formal wedding, so a hat would be fine with the semi-formal suit or dress.

That said, if you don't want her to wear a hat (why?) then ask her to not wear a hat. Sometimes you have to pick and choose your battles, especially with people who are hoping to have a long life with.

Is it a red baseball cap? Otherwise I doubt many people will care.

Anonymous wrote:Elegant hats are frequently worn to British weddings with very elegant, formal suits and dresses. She's probably seen those.

At 5pm, it isn't a formal wedding, so a hat would be fine with the semi-formal suit or dress.

Why does the time matter for whether a hat is appropriate ?

Have to say, this is a delightful thread. Of all the things to worry about.

Is she British?

The horror!

You gotta post pics

Elegant hats are frequently worn to British weddings with very elegant, formal suits and dresses. She's probably seen those.

At 5pm, it isn't a formal wedding, so a hat would be fine with the semi-formal suit or dress.

Let her wear the hat and look stupid. Everyone else will notice too.

Adults get to decide for themselves what to wear. Trying to control what someone else wears, other than your bridesmaid is peak bridezilla.

Having said that, I would continue to push this issue so that your fiance knows what he is getting into.

Fiancée and I are getting married at a 5PM wedding and his mother wants to wear a hat. I don’t want her to plus it’s an evening wedding!