Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Relationships are everything. They won’t work for you until they trust you.
What age are you working with? I taught title 1 middle school for 10 years and it was hard. I bought their trust via food, gamification of all math, and sooooo much time. It is hard. Hang in there.
This is the problem, I don't understand how to build meaningful relationships! Can you explicitly tell me what you do exactly? What are you saying or doing to build the relationships?
I've always have been kind to my students, silly but the expectation was that they listen and behave. Usually a look worked but I have a student who is running laps around my classroom for example. This is just crazy, never have seen anything like it.
Talk to them. Remember that they were excited about seeing grandma last week and ask how it went. Be willing to forgo 5 minutes of instruction for 5 minutes of relationships. My warm ups were always one math question and one “if you could wake up as an animal tomorrow, what would you want to be?” Or “what is the best part of spring?” Or “what is a goal you have this quarter?” Anything that gave me a smidge of info to connect with them. Many are guarded because they’ve come from authoritative households or been neglected in some way due to poverty or lack of parental knowledge. It takes a long time for some to trust.
When you ask kids to come for after school tutoring, bring food to make it a welcoming environment. Send positive emails home. Praise them for tiny stupid things you think they should do automatically. “I’m glad you’re here!” for the kid who is 10 minutes late, or “I can see you’re trying and appreciate that you remembered your materials!” for the kid who brought a pencil for the first time all year. I spent a couple hundred dollars on pencils at the beginning of the year which was annoying, but it meant I never had to make pencils a battle—there was always a bin in the back of my classroom with pencils kids could just take. They knew that my room was safe, they wouldn’t be criticized for tiny things.
The recommendation for love and logic is a good one. I’m not a teach like a champion fan (too robotic for my liking) but it has a following in similar schools so you may connect with it.
For the kid running laps, it really depends on the age. Is this 6/6th grade/16?