I thought OP was going to say she put his card in her mouth and she got some kind of sore.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Singed,

a woman

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

The card is feminine, that's really not up for dispute, is it? I posted a photo of it above. However, I'm not saying that's what actually bothers me. I honestly think his embarrassment of it and failure to own it bothered me more. Or maybe a little of both. I'm not proud to say this, obviously. It's shallow, I guess.

It's a credit card, OP. It's not masculine or feminine. You made a comment about his card and he was defensive. You and the waitress were commenting on his "pretty" card and that sounds an awful lot like shaming him for not choosing something "masculine" as though that's even a thing for a credit card.

You also titled this post "His credit card gave me the ick" - if you meant "his refusal to be proud that he ordered the flower card instead of a different one gave me the ick" you should have titled the thread that instead.

You are not getting the responses you wanted and are trying to re-write the story to make you look less shallow. It's not working.

FFS.

If this is what gives you "the ick" you are bound to be alone.

This feels like a Curb Your Enthusiasm storyline.

Anonymous wrote:

Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

The card is feminine, that's really not up for dispute, is it? I posted a photo of it above. However, I'm not saying that's what actually bothers me. I honestly think his embarrassment of it and failure to own it bothered me more. Or maybe a little of both. I'm not proud to say this, obviously. It's shallow, I guess.

Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

Are you a troll? You're upset he paid with an American Express Platinum card?

Anonymous wrote:Look lady this is the second time in a week you got the ick. Maybe the reason you are still single is because you are so picky.

I have literally never posted in this forum before.

^not be dating until you become more of an adult.

Look lady this is the second time in a week you got the ick. Maybe the reason you are still single is because you are so picky.

Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

Enjoy being single forever!

Here's a photo of the card he used.

End things with him gracefully. He sounds very nice and you sound very judgmental.

Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.