Anonymous
Post 03/28/2025 07:49     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's awful. Imagine if we shipped out kids in foster care to be adopted in another country because it would cost less than keeping them in foster care? And their parents just ... lost touch. Man, just when I'm thinking our US gov't is awful, South Korea says hold my beer.


The point of adoption vs. foster care is to give permanent homes.

Foster care is temporary and family reunion is the goal.
Adoption is meant to provide a family when there isn’t one, not to take away a family


In adoption birth family rights are severed. Contact is optional.
Anonymous
Post 03/28/2025 07:30     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's awful. Imagine if we shipped out kids in foster care to be adopted in another country because it would cost less than keeping them in foster care? And their parents just ... lost touch. Man, just when I'm thinking our US gov't is awful, South Korea says hold my beer.


The point of adoption vs. foster care is to give permanent homes.

Foster care is temporary and family reunion is the goal.
Adoption is meant to provide a family when there isn’t one, not to take away a family
Anonymous
Post 03/28/2025 00:18     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
Anonymous wrote:That's awful. Imagine if we shipped out kids in foster care to be adopted in another country because it would cost less than keeping them in foster care? And their parents just ... lost touch. Man, just when I'm thinking our US gov't is awful, South Korea says hold my beer.


The point of adoption vs. foster care is to give permanent homes.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 22:08     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
That's awful. Imagine if we shipped out kids in foster care to be adopted in another country because it would cost less than keeping them in foster care? And their parents just ... lost touch. Man, just when I'm thinking our US gov't is awful, South Korea says hold my beer.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 21:43     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
Anonymous wrote:DP but I'm assuming OP was referring to this
https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/frontline/article/south-korea-foreign-adoptions-government-fraud-abuse/

I'm an Korean adoptee who came here as a baby and am really struggling with this news.


OP here, yes that's the story. Here's a gift link for the WaPo story: https://wapo.st/4iNRtwk

I have two cousins who are Korean adoptees. They actually found their birth mom about 15 years ago (we are all old) but even though they were not kidnapped from her, it was very clear after they visited her that she had almost no agency in the process. And the adoption agency definitely lied to my aunt and uncle about the circumstances of their adoption. They thought they were doing something especially good because they were adopting siblings and keeping them together. The reality was more complicated.

My cousins grew up in a good and loving home but the circumstances of their adoption left me with really mixed feelings about international adoption and this story is really hitting home in an upsetting way.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 21:34     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
DP but I'm assuming OP was referring to this
https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/frontline/article/south-korea-foreign-adoptions-government-fraud-abuse/

I'm an Korean adoptee who came here as a baby and am really struggling with this news.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 20:32     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
Paywall are you gonna fill anyone in op? No ones paying the post for anything these days.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 19:45     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
Anonymous wrote:I think biracial children in Korea would have very likely grown up completely broken. They were doing them a favor by adopting them out of the country IMO. That's the reality of the society they were born in.


These are 100% Korean, PP. You misread. If you knew anything about the history of Korea, you'd know that this has long been known (kids would get kidnapped in hospitals and on playgrounds). This is just an official recognition of the decades of baby kidnapping.

Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 19:35     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
I think biracial children in Korea would have very likely grown up completely broken. They were doing them a favor by adopting them out of the country IMO. That's the reality of the society they were born in.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 19:32     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know. I was thinking of giving up my baby to a foreign couple but now I'm not so sure.


You cannot easily do that. Sounds fake.


I think it was a joke
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 13:07     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
Anonymous wrote:I know. I was thinking of giving up my baby to a foreign couple but now I'm not so sure.


You cannot easily do that. Sounds fake.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 13:06     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
Cannot see it but babies are for sale in the US as well... there needs to be far more regulations and courts need to uphold and check things. I know several unethical adoptions including my child's sibling.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 13:05     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
I know. I was thinking of giving up my baby to a foreign couple but now I'm not so sure.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 12:59     Subject: Re:This is why I won't do an international adoption
Pay wall.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2025 12:52     Subject: This is why I won't do an international adoption
https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2025/03/27/south-korea-adoption-investigation-human-rights-abuses/

I feel terrible for everyone involved (except the people who sold babies for profit).