Also being proactively manipulative in a negative way. Trying to hurt someone intentionally.

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Anonymous wrote:Golden rule. I will also give regular sex, oral and otherwise, keep in shape, and will not nag, cheat, or be mean.

What do you mean by “be mean?” Like, you won’t physically hit me, or you won’t clean out your car by putting all of the stuff from the car in the kitchen I just cleaned?

Physically abusive and vindictive

Anonymous wrote:Golden rule. I will also give regular sex, oral and otherwise, keep in shape, and will not nag, cheat, or be mean.

What do you mean by “be mean?” Like, you won’t physically hit me, or you won’t clean out your car by putting all of the stuff from the car in the kitchen I just cleaned?

Mine does all the planning and transportation for the kids (school, activities, stuff with friends). The only time I have to lift a finger is when both kids have something going on at the same time.

DH gets all that. He's a great husband and dad. My job can be stressful and he immediately helps me feel less stressed by just hugging me. He's an equal partner in our relationship, we are as close to 50/50 as we can be and I don't need to ask. He shares the mental load and will ask what he can do to help out. Our mutual respect and appreciation for each other is sky high. He also likes to spoil me.

We have a very happy marriage. It really comes down to the high level of respect and appreciation we have for each other.

Anonymous wrote:Mine did everything- but was a cheat later on

And I did all of the above too - hot, $$career, no nagging, fun, regular sex, great mom/wife, etc

Mine did everything- but was a cheat later on

Golden rule. I will also give regular sex, oral and otherwise, keep in shape, and will not nag, cheat, or be mean.

Random side projects at busy times: spend spend 3 hours reprogramming the biometric lock; take the daughters to Starbies; heat the pool and bathe there in winter; do 6 mos of work expenses Sunday afternoon; make ready made cement and F up the walk way more over four hours; look up vendors to paint the outside of the brick house all white every two years.

Watch tv

As much or as little as they can get away with.

My dh does absolutely anything I want. He's proactive about romance, handles his shit around the house without me asking and actually understands the mental load (doesn't mean he knows how to do the mental load stuff, but he sees what I do and appreciates it/says thank you and tells the kids to say thank you, etc and). He did need to be "assigned" his tasks, but once assigned I don't need to ask again.
I spend a lot of money (and we have daughters) and we travel often. He doesn't complain or ever even mention it. He likes to spoil us.
I very much like my autonomy/independence and he isn't threatened.
Life is pretty good.

There over 60 million married men in America. Every answer you can imagine is represented somewhere.

What do you want from a man?

If men get everything they want in a marriage which before was listed as regular sex and blow jobs, attractive partner with nice figure, a partner that doesn't nag, cheat, and isn't mean, then what are they willing to put into the marriage?