Anonymous wrote:I usually get them things they need. Sometimes it’s a lot - like needing a new laptop. Sometimes it’s not much - like replacing socks. We tend to spend our money Doing things together.

This^. If I've recently gave a phone because theirs broke, likely birthday gift is not going to be expensive.

Xmas spend about 1-2K, birthday gave 2K cash to young adult DC

We don't do birthday gifts or Christmas (except candy and the like), but I do get a cash gift every year of $18k. But it's just whenever they get around to it, usually at the end of the year.

2 adult sons + a DIL. For birthdays, I give a card and $100. One of my kids recently bought a home, so I plan to buy him a weed wacker/ edger tool. This will be more than $100, but he needs it. For Christmas, I ask everyone for a list and go from there.

My daughters birthday is today and I spent probably $200. I got her gift cards to Dunkin Donuts and Victoria Secrets because she likes both, then I paid to have her hair cut and since she loves cleaning i made a gift basket of cleaning supplies enough to last her 6 months. She loved them all especially the gift basket which she posted about on IG.

I usually get them things they need. Sometimes it’s a lot - like needing a new laptop. Sometimes it’s not much - like replacing socks. We tend to spend our money Doing things together.

Like stuff? Absolutely nothing. Buying things is not our love-language. Cash and they can get whatever the need.

If you are dropping money and gifts all year, you don't need to do big gestures on holidays.

Anonymous wrote:For birthday and Christmas?

Depends on budget.

$50-$100, it depends. My kids all have good jobs and can splurge on themselves.

It may be something special or something they normally would not get.

Or it may be something I see in my travels. It’s random but I don’t go overboard.

My parents probably spend $200-350 for each adult kid.

My kid maintains a wish list . I usually get her maybe three things off it.

(Most recently, requested cooking equipment, a game and an outdoor experience gift certificate).

My parents (let's be honest, my mom) spends about $25-40/adult child. We aren't a huge gift giving family once kids become adults. Everyone is financially comfortable and capable of buying what they want/need.

Real gifts are things like dad helping replace electrical outlets or mom baking cookies and sending them.

I don't consider gifts from a solely financial aspect, but I get something the recipient will hopefully appreciate. Ex: my adult kid has looked everywhere for a rare poster about his favorite topic. I finally found it, and he will love this gift. The price was ultimately cheap, but the gift is meaningful. Separately, all my kids badly needs new phones and we will provide them. It will cost a lot more than a poster!

For birthday and Christmas?