Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:11
Subject: DD assaulted
Ok so it sounds like he talked you out of filing the report either because he's a complete jerk or because he thinks the case is going to be a waste of time and doesn't want to have to do the follow up and paperwork on it (which still makes him a jerk). Unfortunately it's not terribly uncommon for the SA that I'm guessing occurred with your daughter. BTDT, people act like you're overreacting.
Anyways, they can't tell you you can't file a police report. Get a lawyer and file it.
Anyways, they can't tell you you can't file a police report. Get a lawyer and file it.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:10
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.
He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.
but there is video!
this is bs
I wonder if the police officer or someone in the school district is family members with the boy
did they at least say he's not allowed to ride the bus anymore??
op, I know someone whose son engaged in consensual hooking up with his girlfriend. both the girlfriend and her parents agree it was consensual and have not pressed charges. the same thing happened a year ago and the school is making the boy go to an alternative school for the rest of the school year. both sets of parents were shown the video.
ask to see the video. subtly take out your camera and video it while they are showing it to you.
me again. the principal told the mom of the boy, "you are lucky the girl is insisting it is consensual because if not, there would be sexual assaults charges filed."
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:09
Subject: DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:So it sounds like he talked you out of filing a police report? If that's the case, get a lawyer and file the report. The DA may still not decide to prosecute but that's what the lawyer is for.
If you did file the report, work directly with the lawyer on next steps.
Is that what it was, he said we needed to sign a paper, but I did not know that was the report not the decision to move on and press charges.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:09
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.
He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.
but there is video!
this is bs
I wonder if the police officer or someone in the school district is family members with the boy
did they at least say he's not allowed to ride the bus anymore??
op, I know someone whose son engaged in consensual hooking up with his girlfriend. both the girlfriend and her parents agree it was consensual and have not pressed charges. the same thing happened a year ago and the school is making the boy go to an alternative school for the rest of the school year. both sets of parents were shown the video.
ask to see the video. subtly take out your camera and video it while they are showing it to you.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:07
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.
We filed a report, he told us we needed to sign a document to go through with charges but later refused.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:07
Subject: DD assaulted
So it sounds like he talked you out of filing a police report? If that's the case, get a lawyer and file the report. The DA may still not decide to prosecute but that's what the lawyer is for.
If you did file the report, work directly with the lawyer on next steps.
If you did file the report, work directly with the lawyer on next steps.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:05
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.
He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:04
Subject: DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Are you a troll?
"The cops will not let us press charges" does not make sense.
The decision of whether to press charges typically is up to a prosecutor, NOT the police or the victim.
No I'm not she is traumatized and we really do not know what to do. He said that they must likely would not give the kid a big punishment so it is not worth it and that the school handled it.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:04
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:00
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 15:00
Subject: DD assaulted
if this is not a troll, you should go to a lawyer in your particular jurisdiction, not come to this message board with information that is not sufficient to give you any advice.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 14:59
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
Anonymous
03/20/2025 14:58
Subject: DD assaulted
Are you a troll?
"The cops will not let us press charges" does not make sense.
The decision of whether to press charges typically is up to a prosecutor, NOT the police or the victim.
"The cops will not let us press charges" does not make sense.
The decision of whether to press charges typically is up to a prosecutor, NOT the police or the victim.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 14:56
Subject: DD assaulted
Ask an attorney not us.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 14:53
Subject: DD assaulted
HS DD was touched inappropriately on the bus 1 month ago. The cops will not let us press any charges. It wasn't going to be a felony sex crime but a misdemeanor and he switched up and said no. The school says we cannot access the video due to FERPA but it's part of her education record. What are our options.