Anonymous wrote:Church is always a good option.

Not the OP, but also interested in this thread.
Men do outnumber women here, and in this age bracket, men with secure attachment style tend to already be in relationships.
In addition, as an atheist, I would be interested in agnostic/atheist/non-religious men, so that also diminishes the pool.
Dating in DC (in the context of co-building a serious relationship, not the let’s fun short-term context) has been challenging in this age bracket.

Anonymous wrote:They do not exist in DC, sadly. The dating prospect for women isn't good here due to women outnumbering men. A well educated man with a white collar job and no major personality flaws are either spoken for or choosing from a pool of attractive women

OMG my ex (slightly older than this) gets SO many dates . I use capitals bc it’s surprising. He earns well and has a “ status job.” He has had three GFs post divorce. We are still friends so I hear everything. I have known him for 30 years.

Also, I chalk this all up to DC crazy —-and people think differently here

OP, why are you single at 40. Be honest.

40 seems old to be excluding men who have been married before.

Work, the gym, volunteer/sports leagues. These are all places you can find men.

Church is always a good option.

Anonymous wrote:Single and no kids? You'll be a hot commodity.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recently moved from LA to DC for a new tech job. I joined a music band, and performed twice a month at retirement homes. There I met several women with parents in retirement homes. I was dating a doctor, and now I am dating a lawyer. I have so many options in the DMV, and I don't know what it is but women seem to like musicians.

You are a man. OP is asking about dating for women

Volunteer and/or Pickleball. That's where you, as a woman, will find guys that age who have money and in good shape.

Anonymous wrote:I recently moved from LA to DC for a new tech job. I joined a music band, and performed twice a month at retirement homes. There I met several women with parents in retirement homes. I was dating a doctor, and now I am dating a lawyer. I have so many options in the DMV, and I don't know what it is but women seem to like musicians.

You are a man. OP is asking about dating for women

I recently moved from LA to DC for a new tech job. I joined a music band, and performed twice a month at retirement homes. There I met several women with parents in retirement homes. I was dating a doctor, and now I am dating a lawyer. I have so many options in the DMV, and I don't know what it is but women seem to like musicians.

Single and no kids? You'll be a hot commodity.

My advice would be to find activities you enjoy regardless of whether there are men there or not. I met my husband when I got really into the salsa dancing scene because I loved learning to dance, not because I was looking for men. I ended up meeting a ton of great men though! FYI, I used Meetup.com to find activities I enjoyed (dancing, hiking, watching a certain football team, etc.)

It sucks. I moved to Midwest and it’s much better

Nothing wrong with bars. I have met several lovely people there. Some for conversation, some for dancing, some for hooking up.
People 40+ are coming back to bars as online doesn't work for many.
Not many 40+ who haven't been married.

They do not exist in DC, sadly. The dating prospect for women isn't good here due to women outnumbering men. A well educated man with a white collar job and no major personality flaws are either spoken for or choosing from a pool of attractive women

I’m excited about moving to DC this summer, but having visited several times I’ve found most people to be bit cliquish.. which feels weird to be saying at the age of 40, but the DC crowd feels much less open than the Manhattan life I’m coming from. Definitely a lot more conservative in terms of style and vibe.


I’m not really one for meeting men at bars and I don’t want to date online if I can avoid it.

Where do the straight, successful, not already married, not crazy men hang out?