Anonymous
03/16/2025 18:55
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How did you divide the time during the process? I am reading it takes about a year or more - DH refuses to move out and I am not sure how this should be handled. Do I just move with the kids? He’s abusive so living with him for a year is not possible.
How does this make him more money?
Then you have to move out. Simple as.
Attorney tells me not to.
Well of course, because that makes the attorney more money. Divorce lawyers prey upon women.
Anonymous
03/16/2025 18:45
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How did you divide the time during the process? I am reading it takes about a year or more - DH refuses to move out and I am not sure how this should be handled. Do I just move with the kids? He’s abusive so living with him for a year is not possible.
Then you have to move out. Simple as.
Attorney tells me not to.
Well of course, because that makes the attorney more money. Divorce lawyers prey upon women.
Anonymous
03/16/2025 18:29
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How did you divide the time during the process? I am reading it takes about a year or more - DH refuses to move out and I am not sure how this should be handled. Do I just move with the kids? He’s abusive so living with him for a year is not possible.
Then you have to move out. Simple as.
Attorney tells me not to.
Anonymous
03/16/2025 17:43
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Anonymous wrote:How did you divide the time during the process? I am reading it takes about a year or more - DH refuses to move out and I am not sure how this should be handled. Do I just move with the kids? He’s abusive so living with him for a year is not possible.
Then you have to move out. Simple as.
Anonymous
03/15/2025 21:56
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
moving out will give you the head space to plan on your own and move out and forward.
Anonymous
03/15/2025 21:54
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Finally ignore all small personal property. This is the best stat.
Even your junk minivan that you drove the kids around in. )|+{}^ Sorry au am projecting hahahah Just ignore the small sh*t or leave it for the very end . Vehicles are easy to value later
anyone can survive divorce AND get half of YOUR stuff
Even your junk minivan that you drove the kids around in. )|+{}^ Sorry au am projecting hahahah Just ignore the small sh*t or leave it for the very end . Vehicles are easy to value later
anyone can survive divorce AND get half of YOUR stuff
Anonymous
03/15/2025 21:52
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Op has to give second parent
access to the kids though half of the time
she could propose the parenting schedule
Then follow up in writing. Use chat gpt
Call it a parenting schedule which is less frightening to the idea-newbie
keep bickering at a minimum - Again use chat gpt . It can help keep things above board and you out of trouble
Once your head is on straight start an excel sheet thst lists your large assets and their values . handle / do the house (s) calculation LAST
eg Mortage balance minus equity paid
Not hard but do it last
don’t get wrapped around the axel anyone can so this
access to the kids though half of the time
she could propose the parenting schedule
Then follow up in writing. Use chat gpt
Call it a parenting schedule which is less frightening to the idea-newbie
keep bickering at a minimum - Again use chat gpt . It can help keep things above board and you out of trouble
Once your head is on straight start an excel sheet thst lists your large assets and their values . handle / do the house (s) calculation LAST
eg Mortage balance minus equity paid
Not hard but do it last
don’t get wrapped around the axel anyone can so this
Anonymous
03/15/2025 21:31
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
My ex moved out into an apartment. I am a
F, was 42 at the time. Divorce took 2.5 years. We settled and I purchased the house from him- he filed a quit claim. The kids and I lived there through Covid then sold and downsized.
F, was 42 at the time. Divorce took 2.5 years. We settled and I purchased the house from him- he filed a quit claim. The kids and I lived there through Covid then sold and downsized.
Anonymous
03/15/2025 21:23
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Anonymous wrote:I had to love with my ex. He was not abusive but it was not fun. I’m not a lawyer but I disagree with the earlier poster. You really need to check with a lawyer. Sometimes if you move out, it could give you less of a position to keep your house or your interest in the house.
No. not true. If a man moves out they are not like “oh you get less equity now”
it’s not healthy to live w ex if it is not her desire He can also tape her or bait her or whatever
Anonymous
03/15/2025 21:01
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
You move out and make a 50-50 schedule for custody.
Anonymous
03/15/2025 20:52
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
I had to love with my ex. He was not abusive but it was not fun. I’m not a lawyer but I disagree with the earlier poster. You really need to check with a lawyer. Sometimes if you move out, it could give you less of a position to keep your house or your interest in the house.
Anonymous
03/15/2025 19:46
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Anonymous wrote:Speak with your lawyer first, OP, answer is jurisdiction and fact dependent.
That was written by a divorxe attorney layer
No. Avoid starting that bill as long as you can Once you start the clock $$$ All they hear is the money deposit
Anonymous
03/15/2025 18:21
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Anonymous wrote:Speak with your lawyer first, OP, answer is jurisdiction and fact dependent.
I just want to hear what other people do and how it’s working out. I know someone who nested, but that wouldn’t work for us as H has a strange out of town work schedule. Plus I really don’t want to donut and 1 DC (almost 18) doesn’t want to see him.
Anonymous
03/15/2025 18:11
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
Speak with your lawyer first, OP, answer is jurisdiction and fact dependent.
Anonymous
03/15/2025 18:10
Subject: Living arrangement during separation, lengthy divorce proceedings
How did you divide the time during the process? I am reading it takes about a year or more - DH refuses to move out and I am not sure how this should be handled. Do I just move with the kids? He’s abusive so living with him for a year is not possible.