Anonymous wrote:My dh cheated after 20 years of marriage (together for 26 years). I caught him but he was very remorseful and did everything he possibly could to go deep into therapy, antidepressants, deeper religious work, to come to terms with his childhood trauma (which was quite real) and worked on himself so so hard knowing I would not decide whether to stay or make him go. Three children and otherwise a good marriage (people don’t realize this but it can be very true especially if the cause of the cheating is the underlying mental health problems which it was for us). For me I got much stronger through therapy and now see it for what it was. I still hate the AP very much and hate how many people I know think she is worthy of respect because of her work when it is very clear to me she is justa broken alcoholic. Anyway we are heading toward 6 years since DDay and are staying together but I will never trust him or anyone as completely as I did before (which was a mistake as it was). But you can do it if the cheating spouse takes responsibility and does all the opposite things from what led them to cheat. I am glad I was able to hang in there also for our children as it would have devastated all of them.
Anonymous wrote:My dh cheated after 20 years of marriage (together for 26 years). I caught him but he was very remorseful and did everything he possibly could to go deep into therapy, antidepressants, deeper religious work, to come to terms with his childhood trauma (which was quite real) and worked on himself so so hard knowing I would not decide whether to stay or make him go. Three children and otherwise a good marriage (people don’t realize this but it can be very true especially if the cause of the cheating is the underlying mental health problems which it was for us). For me I got much stronger through therapy and now see it for what it was. I still hate the AP very much and hate how many people I know think she is worthy of respect because of her work when it is very clear to me she is justa broken alcoholic. Anyway we are heading toward 6 years since DDay and are staying together but I will never trust him or anyone as completely as I did before (which was a mistake as it was). But you can do it if the cheating spouse takes responsibility and does all the opposite things from what led them to cheat. I am glad I was able to hang in there also for our children as it would have devastated all of them.
Anonymous wrote:I kicked him out the day I found out and divorced. It was not so much that I was hurt by the infidelity but it was the last straw for me in an awful marriage. We have kids together and by the time we divorced, I had no feelings left for him so there was no anger/bitterness to get in the way of being decent co-parents.
His cheating was the best thing that could have happened to me. Otherwise I would likely have stayed in an emotionally abusive relationship for another decade. He remarried a few years later (not to the AP) and has been even worse to his second wife. I have no doubt he's cheated on her. I have stayed happily single.
Anonymous wrote:I kicked him out the day I found out and divorced. It was not so much that I was hurt by the infidelity but it was the last straw for me in an awful marriage. We have kids together and by the time we divorced, I had no feelings left for him so there was no anger/bitterness to get in the way of being decent co-parents.
His cheating was the best thing that could have happened to me. Otherwise I would likely have stayed in an emotionally abusive relationship for another decade. He remarried a few years later (not to the AP) and has been even worse to his second wife. I have no doubt he's cheated on her. I have stayed happily single.
Anonymous wrote:Even if you stay with him, the relationship you thought you had is over
Anonymous wrote:I made an instagram account of the pictures I found. Blocked them and family from seeing it. Now they both have a dangling safe over their heads but have no idea, someday they will be completely blindsided by someone else’s betrayal just like I was.
They are all posted as reels, some of them have become quite popular and have been shared a number of times; it won’t be long now.