Vow renewals. Just why?

This one is fairly specific and for men, but if you have 3 kids in 10 years and then left the marriage, the problem is you. You may have chosen your spouse poorly, and some marriages don’t work out. But then you didn’t slow down to admit that and instead pulled a bunch of kids into the mess. Own your stuff and work on your family make better choices in the beginning. These guys are also financially hamstrung forever because they often go onto make the same mistakes with a new partner. Just, dumb-dumbs.

I think a lot of people are not living life to the fullest by staying in bad marriages, and that they'd be better humans if they felt loved.

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Anonymous wrote:Come on, tell us...what's your judgy-est, snobbiest thought about relationships?

Mine is that I've never met a marriage between high school sweethearts that I'm jealous of.

NP. I agree, but then I realize I've never met any marriage I'm jealous of. 😕

Here's my judgiest thought. I know several white women who date/marry only black men, and they've told me they just think black men have an "edge" to them -- a version of the classic bad boy fetish. Which actually means all these white women are quite racist (!) since they think black man = bad boy.

True, but idk, it's more than that. They usually are just married out of inertia and have no idea who they are individually. My cousin married his middle school sweetheart and they have always been miserable. Even when they were 23 and engaged it was like pulling teeth to get them to set an actual date for the wedding.

My sister is married to her college sweetheart and while I love my BIL and I do think they are at least happy, it is kind of weird to me that they have no concept of adulthood without the other. They have been dating since they were juniors in college, moved in together right after graduation, and were married by 25. But at least they were able to develop a sense of individuality which people like my cousin and his wife were not.

Anonymous wrote:Well in my somewhat limited experience men of all colors leave much to be desired, but black men are in fact generally better endowed so all else being equal - enjoy the deeper penetration I say!

I literally lol'd at this.

I’m not in a place to judge (my marriage is far from perfect), but since we’re playing this game…

I hate when people say “we’re pregnant” or “*we’re 30 weeks”- no, you (collectively) are expecting and you (individually) are pregnant and x weeks.

I also hate those forcefully posed Instagram posts with a woman’s hands on her spouses chest.

I hate when one spouse calls me, and they are on speaker and their spouse keeps jumping in. Even worse, when they interrupt each other and even worse than THAT when they argue with each other.

Megan, I just want to talk with YOU! Not you and Brian.

Open relationships, especially when the wife is pregnant, postpartum, or bearing the bulk of child raising, are inherently bad.

I think that divorced people who remarry or cohabitate with a new partner with kids are pathetic. Blending families while kids live at
Home is unnecessary and rarely successful.

Anonymous wrote:Come on, tell us...what's your judgy-est, snobbiest thought about relationships?

Mine is that I've never met a marriage between high school sweethearts that I'm jealous of.

NP. I agree, but then I realize I've never met any marriage I'm jealous of. 😕

Here's my judgiest thought. I know several white women who date/marry only black men, and they've told me they just think black men have an "edge" to them -- a version of the classic bad boy fetish. Which actually means all these white women are quite racist (!) since they think black man = bad boy.

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you also enjoy when someone you know gets fired?

You ruin everything.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you also enjoy when someone you know gets fired?

No, I do not. What, we can't have a thread about gossipy topics?

Ok, sorry. Just wondering if you started the other thread. Carry on…

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you also enjoy when someone you know gets fired?

No, I do not. What, we can't have a thread about gossipy topics?

OP, do you also enjoy when someone you know gets fired?

Come on, tell us...what's your judgy-est, snobbiest thought about relationships?

Mine is that I've never met a marriage between high school sweethearts that I'm jealous of.