I should have typed Good for you, OP. I am not the OP.

OP is being a responsible and helpful parent and apparently acting in concert with daughter, not trying to run her life. Good for you. OP.

Anonymous wrote:I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

If not one, not two but three 3 partners attacked, you are the common denominator there.

Anonymous wrote:Why you let them move in?

Why would you suggest one adult even if a parent, controlling another adult's life?

How do you suggest people find out if they are compatible or not without living together?

Had mother pushed a marriage, they'll be going through mess of divorce. Isn't it better to find out before you are married and have 1.5 kids?

Anonymous wrote:Why you let them move in?

DD is an adult! mommy needs to cut the apron strings already.. so ick

Anonymous wrote:I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

You are clearly terrible at picking partners on many levels.

Anonymous wrote:I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

I’m so sorry that happened to you. This guy wouldn’t have the guts to attack DD. Plus she won’t be alone moving out.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t immediately jump to STDs, but it’s probably not a bad idea. How old is she and why did she make the decision to live with him? Is she on the lease?

Luckily there was no lease. So she can just move out.

I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

Anonymous wrote:Living together for 2-3 years and not married, she dodged a bullet here. It still stinks but better than a lifetime of misery once she has a few kids with this loser.

+1

Living together for 2-3 years and not married, she dodged a bullet here. It still stinks but better than a lifetime of misery once she has a few kids with this loser.

Why you let them move in?

She thinks he cheated? So nothing is confirmed yet and STD is the first concern? Good news is they aren't married so its easier to breakup. She'll be fine. Let her know that you are confident that she'll bounce back but she us welcome to come home if needed.

I wouldn’t immediately jump to STDs, but it’s probably not a bad idea. How old is she and why did she make the decision to live with him? Is she on the lease?

She has been living with him for 2-3 years now, and she told me tonight (after bailing on getting together this past Friday night) that she is trying to move out and they're breaking up and she thinks he cheated on her. I reminded her she needs to get tested for STDs and that she can go to Planned Parenthood for that. She confirmed there's one she can easily get to, and I will help her move into her new place. I am so angry at this guy - if you want to break up just break up - he didn't need to cheat on her. I am so proud of DD for how she's handling things. She had a few days of freaking out and now she's calmed down, and is gathering her support system and getting done what she needs to.