This isn’t a work provided laptop?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why ppl giving you grief. I would feel the same way. Maybe this forum can afford ruining laptops left and right but I can’t. There needs to be a rule of no drinks when on laptop. Also don’t buy her anythinf for fun for a few months and tell her you have no money as you needed to buy a new laptop. Don’t make it a punishment but just a natural consequence.

Yes, there should have been and it's the OP's fault (not the sick child's) that there wasn't. If the budget is so tight that replacing the laptop means no money for anything else then fine, but it shouldn't fall harder on the daughter than anyone else.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why ppl giving you grief. I would feel the same way. Maybe this forum can afford ruining laptops left and right but I can’t. There needs to be a rule of no drinks when on laptop. Also don’t buy her anythinf for fun for a few months and tell her you have no money as you needed to buy a new laptop. Don’t make it a punishment but just a natural consequence.

Thanks. And it’s ok. I knew to expect the trolls.

I don’t know why ppl giving you grief. I would feel the same way. Maybe this forum can afford ruining laptops left and right but I can’t. There needs to be a rule of no drinks when on laptop. Also don’t buy her anythinf for fun for a few months and tell her you have no money as you needed to buy a new laptop. Don’t make it a punishment but just a natural consequence.

Anonymous wrote:We were at urgent care for her and she begged to play on it (I had my work bag with me). She then knocked her tea all over it. She’s apologetic and I have remained very calm, but I am so upset and just need space from her now. I feel so angry. I did everything I could and took it to Apple. Total loss. Worst timing, just bought a house, need to sell our other home, have a bunch of repairs in each. Money is so tight. And I need it for my job.

I know it’s my fault for letting her use it. But oh my god. I will never let her drive a car. I am feeling so bummed. Just needed to vent.

You’re a bum

I can’t believe spilling tea on a laptop results in a total loss.

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, I’m so sorry that happened. I would also be furious and I’m glad you can vent here and not to your daughter.

But remember to have grace. Accidents happen. Imagine if you were your daughter - you would feel absolutely terrible, and having your mom being mad at you wouldn’t help. Especially if you were already at urgent care. I hope your daughter is ok!

+1

When did you buy it and what credit card did you put it on? Do you have the electronics rider on your homeowners insurance? Sometimes those will pay out. And never forget you could have been the one who spilled something. Accidents happen.

This sounds like an accident that could have happened to anyone, including you. But I'm sorry it happened.

I've had this precise thing happen and I get it. It's hard in that moment not to be upset even when you can rationalize and say to yourself "it's my own fault for expecting a child this age to not spill a drink near an expensive electronic." But those are thoughts and your anger is the feeling.

But I worked through it. Something that helps me in those situations is to think about how I want my child to remember the incident in 20 years. Do I want them to remember me being furious with them or me handling it calmly? Thinking about that really helps me get the emotional distance I need.

Yes, that sounds like displaced anger. Don't be mad at your kid. Shit happens. *I* spilled nail polish remover on my new dining room table. It left a permanent mark. Boy, was I mad at myself.

Your anger is misplaced. You shouldn’t be mad at a child for spilling— you let her use it, and knew she had a spill-able liquid nearby. I 100% understand being upset about the computer, but you’re actually mad at yourself. It’s not a great situation, but you need to just acknowledge that and move on.

Ugh, I’m so sorry that happened. I would also be furious and I’m glad you can vent here and not to your daughter.

But remember to have grace. Accidents happen. Imagine if you were your daughter - you would feel absolutely terrible, and having your mom being mad at you wouldn’t help. Especially if you were already at urgent care. I hope your daughter is ok!

Accidents happen. That’s why credit cards weee invented.

We were at urgent care for her and she begged to play on it (I had my work bag with me). She then knocked her tea all over it. She’s apologetic and I have remained very calm, but I am so upset and just need space from her now. I feel so angry. I did everything I could and took it to Apple. Total loss. Worst timing, just bought a house, need to sell our other home, have a bunch of repairs in each. Money is so tight. And I need it for my job.

I know it’s my fault for letting her use it. But oh my god. I will never let her drive a car. I am feeling so bummed. Just needed to vent.