So in essence men have fewer needs/wants and complaints while women have more needs/wants and complaints? Mars and Venus issue? Is there any easy way to balance it?

Oh believe me, men complain. Trust me.

They complain differently. They show their unhappiness with anger, mental and physical abuse, silent treatment. One locked me out of the house. Apparently I wasn't allowed to go out for a walk without him for safety reasons. Since explaining why I couldn't be outside alone, didn't even make sense to him, he just locked the chain from inside.
Had he complained before, we would have had a chance to work it out and start with small walks for me. It's like they hold it in until they can't handle anymore. I wasn't dealing with a regular person here, and whatever he had, got worse as time went by.
The last guy simply dislikes anything negative. He ignores any discussion that is not about happiness. He shuts down in the sight of anything negative. Some childhood trauma.
Men have complaints, but they postpone dealing with them and the lose their head.

Anonymous wrote:They do, but it's pretty much all about sex, or lack thereof. They don't really care if the house is dirty; the kids don't go to good camps; dr's appointments for kids not scheduled... As long as they get regular sex, doesn't even have to be great sex, they have zero complaints.

Plus, this board is mainly women.

Your husband isn't a representative of all married men. So worry about fixing him instead.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They do, but it's pretty much all about sex, or lack thereof. They don't really care if the house is dirty; the kids don't go to good camps; dr's appointments for kids not scheduled... As long as they get regular sex, doesn't even have to be great sex, they have zero complaints.

Plus, this board is mainly women.

This.

Yup.

Because they mostly only care about sex, unless the woman is truly nuts in some way or has serious issues.

To keep a man happy: full belly, empty b***s.

Men complain about relationships all the time, they just do it differently than women.

It's like how men are just as emotional as women, but express it differently.

Women are much more verbal, generally. Men tend to express unhappiness via behaviors, or to repress problems or negative emotions (and then they come out in other ways). Women can also be like this, but in general "complainers" are more likely to be women because they are more likely to verbalize unhappiness.

Which, for the record, I think is a positive thing because you can't fix a problem until you've spoken up about it.

Anonymous wrote:They do, but it's pretty much all about sex, or lack thereof. They don't really care if the house is dirty; the kids don't go to good camps; dr's appointments for kids not scheduled... As long as they get regular sex, doesn't even have to be great sex, they have zero complaints.

Plus, this board is mainly women.

This.

Men just want a nice, kind, nurturing, caring, loyal, compassionate woman to come home to. If they get that in one woman, they'll never leave you.

Hence the phrase, “Negative Nancies”

You must not talk to or know many men.

Have you read the relationship board? Tons of men with complaints and unhappiness. Maybe don’t generalize billions of people?

They do, but it's pretty much all about sex, or lack thereof. They don't really care if the house is dirty; the kids don't go to good camps; dr's appointments for kids not scheduled... As long as they get regular sex, doesn't even have to be great sex, they have zero complaints.

Plus, this board is mainly women.

Men don't bother to verbalize their complaints due to fear of retaliation or they just have no complaints?