Anonymous
02/02/2025 21:02
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Anonymous wrote:Just do it now - you're already behind. It may be a rough 48 hours and then she'll be over it. Tell her you're giving them away to a little baby she's met who needs them.
Op here - I do not want her to not have it at night, but I will put them away at home so she can only have them when she asks for them instead.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:59
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Anonymous wrote:Kid ditched it herself at 4 months. If it had helped her sleep I would have let her keep it forever.
I do think not potty training by 3 is a bit ridiculous, though. I don’t agree with the idea that there’s any benefit in waiting until a kid indicates they are ready. Mine was not interested but trained easily in 1 day at 2.5. We don’t wait for them to be “ready” to wear a car seat or go to preschool or brush their teeth. Seems arbitrary to allow a toddler to dictate the terms on this one important life skill that has a big impact on mom’s quality of life.
Op her - we are doing the child led approach. We gently ask her if she's ready but won't force her yet. I am sure she'll be ready to be out of diapers soon and I want it to be a positive experience for her as well
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:55
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Just do it now - you're already behind. It may be a rough 48 hours and then she'll be over it. Tell her you're giving them away to a little baby she's met who needs them.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:54
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Mine gave it up at 3. She had a lisp until her adult teeth came in and the paci did cause a gap between her lower and upper teeth. Flash forward 12 years later, she’s in braces. She had a ton of dental surgery, a first round a braces, Invisalign (that didn’t work out), and she’s now in braces again. Get your child off of the paci as soon as possible!
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:54
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Kid ditched it herself at 4 months. If it had helped her sleep I would have let her keep it forever.
I do think not potty training by 3 is a bit ridiculous, though. I don’t agree with the idea that there’s any benefit in waiting until a kid indicates they are ready. Mine was not interested but trained easily in 1 day at 2.5. We don’t wait for them to be “ready” to wear a car seat or go to preschool or brush their teeth. Seems arbitrary to allow a toddler to dictate the terms on this one important life skill that has a big impact on mom’s quality of life.
I do think not potty training by 3 is a bit ridiculous, though. I don’t agree with the idea that there’s any benefit in waiting until a kid indicates they are ready. Mine was not interested but trained easily in 1 day at 2.5. We don’t wait for them to be “ready” to wear a car seat or go to preschool or brush their teeth. Seems arbitrary to allow a toddler to dictate the terms on this one important life skill that has a big impact on mom’s quality of life.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:50
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Mine had it during nap and bedtime. When she went to pre-school at 2 almost 3, she couldn’t have it. She turned 3 in November and we went cold turkey the day after Thanksgiving. It was rough ride home from grandma’s but she’s totally done now. We “sent” the paci to a child in need. She had fun decorating the box containing the paci. It’s safely in the attic and I’ll show it to her when she’s a teenager.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:35
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We got rid of them by 18 months tops.
OP here, is that completely? I definitely don't think she is ready to go to sleep or wake up without hers yet
Yes, by 18 months, it was gone completely. My DD liked going to sleep with it. One day I made a little hole on the tip of the pacifier and gave it to her like normal. She didn't like it, but after one restless night she was done. Similarly for my DS.
At 3 years, it's not good for their teeth or speech, if they're wearing it while awake.
OP here - she doesn't speak with it in in the day, maybe a little at bedtime when shes tired, but we make sure she takes it out to talk if she has it in the day
PP here again. My DD is 2.5 and talks constantly. I can't imagine her talking as much and learning proper articulation and other language skills with a pacifier in her mouth.
Check out the research: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10912588/#:~:text=Pacifier%20use%20has%20been%20linked,et%20al.%2C%202019).
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:30
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We got rid of them by 18 months tops.
OP here, is that completely? I definitely don't think she is ready to go to sleep or wake up without hers yet
Yes, by 18 months, it was gone completely. My DD liked going to sleep with it. One day I made a little hole on the tip of the pacifier and gave it to her like normal. She didn't like it, but after one restless night she was done. Similarly for my DS.
At 3 years, it's not good for their teeth or speech, if they're wearing it while awake.
OP here - she doesn't speak with it in in the day, maybe a little at bedtime when shes tired, but we make sure she takes it out to talk if she has it in the day
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:28
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Make it for sleep only at least. The sooner the better. Is she potty trained? Big girls who are potty trained don't use pacifiers.
OP here - not yet potty trained, we are waiting for her to initiate and I am sure she will be ready soon, until then we will keep child led.
I will stop leaving them in the house and will only let her have one if she asks and needs one?
Sounds like a plan.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:27
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Anonymous wrote:Make it for sleep only at least. The sooner the better. Is she potty trained? Big girls who are potty trained don't use pacifiers.
OP here - not yet potty trained, we are waiting for her to initiate and I am sure she will be ready soon, until then we will keep child led.
I will stop leaving them in the house and will only let her have one if she asks and needs one?
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:23
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We got rid of them by 18 months tops.
OP here, is that completely? I definitely don't think she is ready to go to sleep or wake up without hers yet
Yes, by 18 months, it was gone completely. My DD liked going to sleep with it. One day I made a little hole on the tip of the pacifier and gave it to her like normal. She didn't like it, but after one restless night she was done. Similarly for my DS.
At 3 years, it's not good for their teeth or speech, if they're wearing it while awake.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:21
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Make it for sleep only at least. The sooner the better. Is she potty trained? Big girls who are potty trained don't use pacifiers.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 20:20
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Anonymous wrote:We got rid of them by 18 months tops.
OP here, is that completely? I definitely don't think she is ready to go to sleep or wake up without hers yet
Anonymous
02/02/2025 19:46
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
We got rid of them by 18 months tops.
Anonymous
02/02/2025 19:44
Subject: When does your toddler have a pacifier?
Anyone still using a pacifier, we're not close to getting rid of it for her. I wasn't concerned until it was brought up to me. I think it's fine for now but I wanted to see if I'm the only one with a now 3 year old who still has them? I might limit it to home time by the summer, but I wanted to see if there are other paci addict toddlers!