I have only boys and to top it off they are not athletic. No dance classes and also no sports equipment filling my garage.What should I call myself? Nerd-mom?

Anonymous wrote:I really don't envision a mom with only boys when I hear thst term

Instead it's those ladies who rush to their son after an achievement (usually athletic) and throw themselves into their arms. It's cringe in a pseudo romantic way.

Very emeshed

lol no, it doesn't mean "mama's boy".

I really don't envision a mom with only boys when I hear thst term

Instead it's those ladies who rush to their son after an achievement (usually athletic) and throw themselves into their arms. It's cringe in a pseudo romantic way.

Very emeshed

Anonymous wrote:The only people confused about this are people who have only girls. I have both. I get what people mean by "boy mom" but I'm not one because I also have a girl. And my girl is the loud messy one. Boys and girls are still very different and raising just one of each kind would be a very different experience.

to clarify I mean just having one or the other but not both is very different. You don't know what you don't know.

The only people confused about this are people who have only girls. I have both. I get what people mean by "boy mom" but I'm not one because I also have a girl. And my girl is the loud messy one. Boys and girls are still very different and raising just one of each kind would be a very different experience.

Hmm...I'm a boy mom against my will. With a handful of boys and no girls, it's just a fact that I am a boy mom.

I never really thought of it as a bad thing. To me, it means my house is loud and sports are a really big deal. It means I'll never buy dresses for my kids, go to a kid's ballet event, or see Taylor Swift in concert. I don't miss those things.

I don't have any insight on girl drama or social media drama. But I have any kind of high-end sports gear you could ever imagine in my garage...and strewn all over the foyer and living room.

It doesn't mean I think boys are better. Or worse.

It just means that a large part of my parental identity is derived from the reality that my boys are boys...coupled with a sense of urgency to raise fine young men who will hopefully remain close to their parents and brothers for the rest of our lives.

Anyway, if people want to throw rocks at boy moms, I guess that's their business. I couldn't care less what random people think about me.

I have a son and always saw boymom as a negative term.

To me it's used to describe people with the "boys will be boys" attitude or use the excuse of "oh well they are a boy" for their poor behavior. Or that their life is more chaotic, loud, messier , etc just because they have a boy and have some weird stereotypical idea that boys are loud, chaotic, and messy and girls are polite and sweet

It came about mid 2000s because most women want daughters. They don’t like to admit it but they look down upon or differently at women who have only sons.

Ever notice how women complain about how ugly boys clothes are? They want, wish, and dream about the frilly girls clothing. When it comes to baby names, boy mothers always are asked if the child will be a junior, etc..

I have boys and girls so can’t claim to be solely a #girlmom or #boymom.

Anonymous wrote:Because they think boys have unique characteristics that make them both more charming and more difficult. Like “ive got two under 5 and they’re both boys so you know im busy!” Or “i have two teen boys so I’m always at the grocery!”

Heads up, boymoms-kids of both genders have varied temperaments, teenage girls often eat a ton too, and your boys likely wouldn’t make such a mess if you had higher expectations of them. -mom of boys and girls.

Athletes eat a lot - boys and girls. Plus all their friends.

- I'm always at the grocery store too and I only have athletes.

Signed "athlete mom" (it's not a thing, but we can make it a thing).

Anonymous wrote:I often see the term used a some type of insult or with derision. Am I missing something? What extra does this term mean or imply to you that is worthy of scorn?

It used to mean you had only boys, a loud smelly house and dealt with boy stuff.

Then it increasingly meant your boys are prima donnas, do zero chores, get whatever they want, and can do no wrong.

Because they think boys have unique characteristics that make them both more charming and more difficult. Like “ive got two under 5 and they’re both boys so you know im busy!” Or “i have two teen boys so I’m always at the grocery!”

Heads up, boymoms-kids of both genders have varied temperaments, teenage girls often eat a ton too, and your boys likely wouldn’t make such a mess if you had higher expectations of them. -mom of boys and girls.

Anonymous wrote:I often see the term used a some type of insult or with derision. Am I missing something? What extra does this term mean or imply to you that is worthy of scorn?

I have never heard this used as an insult . I will say that mothering a son was way more straightforward than mothering a daughter for me. That probably depends on the children and a bunch of other factors as well

I have a teen son and a daughter. It means that a mother of sons but no daughters might tend to downplay rough behavior that is usually associated with boys, and also minimize attitudes tinged with misogyny.

I've never met any such mothers in real life.
But on the internet, people love to fight and label people, so of course the term is thrown about recklessly.

Because it becomes their identity in a toxic way

I often see the term used a some type of insult or with derision. Am I missing something? What extra does this term mean or imply to you that is worthy of scorn?