Anonymous wrote:I followed the advice on this board when a few women asked about their out of shape husband… I told my wife to start exercising to lose weight or I’d divorce her. Worked like a charm. Thanks DCUM!

I am surprised she followed through. I would have expected her to stand her ground and dare you divorce her. Women usually don't take divorce threats from men seriously.

I followed the advice on this board when a few women asked about their out of shape husband… I told my wife to start exercising to lose weight or I’d divorce her. Worked like a charm. Thanks DCUM!

My partner exercises regularly and I do only sporadically. However, they are the one that is fat.

People should worry about their alcohol consumption first.

I don’t exercise (but deceptively look like I’m in shape), mostly because I get so bored and am also very busy at work. My DH does 6 days a week. He worries about my health.

Anonymous wrote:He is blessed with a great metabolism and weight has never been a problem (unlike me). Before WFH, he used to do a lot of walking on the commute so that seemed okay. As we get older and he barely commutes to the office , I worry about his health.

This was my DH until he hit mid-50s. Was always rail thin and could eat/drink whatever he wanted—it catches up with them eventually.

Anonymous wrote:He is blessed with a great metabolism and weight has never been a problem (unlike me). Before WFH, he used to do a lot of walking on the commute so that seemed okay. As we get older and he barely commutes to the office , I worry about his health.

Testosterone helps immensely with exercise. It's easier for men to stay in shape even with minimal exercise compared to women.

It’s slightly bothersome but I never had to negotiate time for long runs when our kids were little.

Anonymous wrote:DW does not go to the gym but she walks and she is doing her best honestly fo stay healthy. She always been on the heavy side but she is really trying. I have it easy because I am 5'11 and 150 lbs so I exercise regularly 3 times a week (weightlifting and running). When you are thinner exercising is just easier no excuses. But the goal should always be to encourage your partner and not scold them. They are aware of the benefits of exercises and the importance of staying healthy. The last thing they need is a spouse lecturing them.

Lol you must be new on this forum. Between men demanding their spouse be a certain weight and wives complaining about their fat husbands with some even asking whether they should divorce you are a rarity. Many people on this forum view a spouse who is out of shape as a legitimation mate reason for divorce. If you don't believe me do a search and see some of the people in agreement.

He is blessed with a great metabolism and weight has never been a problem (unlike me). Before WFH, he used to do a lot of walking on the commute so that seemed okay. As we get older and he barely commutes to the office , I worry about his health.

Yes, and it bothers me because I worry about his health. But he'll probably outlive me.

DW does not go to the gym but she walks and she is doing her best honestly fo stay healthy. She always been on the heavy side but she is really trying. I have it easy because I am 5'11 and 150 lbs so I exercise regularly 3 times a week (weightlifting and running). When you are thinner exercising is just easier no excuses. But the goal should always be to encourage your partner and not scold them. They are aware of the benefits of exercises and the importance of staying healthy. The last thing they need is a spouse lecturing them.

It bothers me. I worry about his health. He does some exercise on weekends but claims he has no time during week.

I feel fine about it. He exercises occasionally. He’s naturally more athletic than I am, so that’s more of an option for him than it is for me.
If I go 3-4 days without exercising, I have to build back up to where it’s fun again. He can do nothing for a week and then go out and run a few miles.

Do you exercise regularly and your partner does not? If so, how do you feel about it? I am of course assuming your partner is able body and their refusal isn't due to lack of time, child care constraints but due to their laziness or don't see the importance of it.