Not always. My husband works in a building where he cannot have his cell phone. He checks in when he can but I don't suspect anything.

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

You sound like a simpleton. Pretty much 99.999999% of white collar professionals in DC (is that still an OK descriptor?) glance at their phone literally every 10 minutes, if not morseo. The casual relpy-when-you-can attitude is not accepted. We all KNOW you are looking at your phone. So, when a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice. They could answer, but they don't.

Guilty, all day long.

I barely text my spouse at work when I’m you know busy seeing patients…. This is dumb.

Anonymous wrote:

Way to trigger all the posters obsessed about infidelity, "counselor". You just want to stir the pot.

+1
Troll troll troll

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

+1. We live in a world where we condemn people who are focused on their work colleagues sitting right in front of them rather than being on their phone?

My husband and I go through phases of communicating a lot or a little at work.

I suppose I can't speak for him, but when I don't reach out or respond during the workday, it's because I am...wait for it....very busy.

OP, I get that this is your observation, but your salacious tone and confidence in your assertion is not really appropriate coming from a licensed counsellor. I'm licensed in another profession, and I find this really irresponsible (not that it may be true often, but the way you said it).

Way to trigger all the posters obsessed about infidelity, "counselor". You just want to stir the pot.

Yes. But caveat that it's an indicator when usually there is a lot of contact. Dh is in an scif. I'm in another one. We exhange a rare coordination email about kids during the day.

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

+1

So dumb

I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

In my situation, he always had meetings or other reasons why he couldn’t text me during the day. A colleague was more than willing to fill that role, and after several months one thing led to another…

Mine started to text me when he knew I had workout class- catch me before. I think to make sure I wouldn’t be looking for him during that hour. At the time I thought it was sweet he was checking in more.

True. My spouse did have top clearance so it was conceivable he couldn’t have cell phone at times, but also very convenient for when he didn’t want to be reached.

Other tip: having to run into the office for only a few hours on remote work day. Oh-and iPhone locator will look like they are at the office. They leave it there or monkey with it (easy to hack )

"Licensed", eh?
In what?

I'm a licensed counselor that browses this board.

I'm here to drop a bombshell on all of you, or maybe a few.

Lack of contact during the work day is the biggest red flag there is when you suspect infidelity. Especially so amongst couples that routinely text during the day otherwise.

If your spouse is usually very responsive to texts and calls during the work day but has 'events', or 'bigwigs in town', or a 'team birthday dinner' and they go radio silent? That is when they are cheating.

You are welcome.