I see a NP for my physicals, I find they tend to be more personable. The specialist I see is a human robot

To me, caring means my doctor listens to me, takes my health concerns seriously, is thorough and not rushed, shows compassion, answers my questions at the time of my appointment and outside of appointments. These qualities indicate to me that my doctor cares to do a good job and I like to think it also means they care about people in general, but not necessarily about me specifically.

Not at all, but I don't just go to random doctors.

Anonymous wrote:This struck me when my PCP went concierge. They are quite prepared to leave 3/4 of their patients dangling without a primary care doctor.

This seems like a really uninformed statement.
Or they may really care and want to provide good care to the number of patients they feel they can without having to see patients every 15 minutes.

This struck me when my PCP went concierge. They are quite prepared to leave 3/4 of their patients dangling without a primary care doctor.

In front of my face, yes. Otherwise, not at all, and the staff doesn't seem to care. I had Covid in 2022 and was really sick, near needing to be hospitalized, and when I called asking about Paxlovid they were really brusque and didn't even say they hoped I felt better or anything. I very much felt alone when that happened.

(Yes, I understand a lot of people were dying and sicker than I was, but that doesn't negate how ill I was.)

No, not at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Your doctor has poor bedside manner. That’s not a new thing. I’d find another.

This.

I know that some medical schools are working to address this with their residents (e.g., Georgetown) but no idea if it is actually effective. Some younger doctors I've seen there have been much more personable and caring (caring-seeming, anyway) than the older ones though, fwiw.

This is odd because I would say Drs trained at Georgetown are the least compassionate. It is good to hear they are addressing this. Based on my experience it is best to avoid large teaching institutions. They are best saved for a specific specialist or Dr that you are needing and not focused on care. They will do a good job treating your condition if it fits their interest. The best CARE is found off the beaten path. A smaller community type setting has worked well for our family.

My primary care doctor would like to fix whatever problem I come in with, or at least take a step towards figuring out what is going on or making it better. But no, I don't think he cares about me as a person any more than the cashier at my supermarket or the guy who changed my oil at jiffy lube does. They are all just doing a job. I want them to be good at their jobs and not rude but I don't need them to pretend to be happy to see me or remember my cat's name or anything. I am just one in a line of people they need to deal with before they get to go home.

Which one? I have so many doctors. Generally I find women doctors and practitioners are better than men, but not always.

None of them ever really care. They are not family.

Anonymous wrote:Your doctor has poor bedside manner. That’s not a new thing. I’d find another.

This.

I know that some medical schools are working to address this with their residents (e.g., Georgetown) but no idea if it is actually effective. Some younger doctors I've seen there have been much more personable and caring (caring-seeming, anyway) than the older ones though, fwiw.

Your doctor has poor bedside manner. That’s not a new thing. I’d find another.

Some are just like that. Few are not, and really listen.

Taken aback by an appointment. Curious if your doctor seems to give a crap at all about you? I was surprized but the lack of...well I don't even know what I'd call it from my appointment. Completely checked out, uninterested, just an odd feel. And since their demeanor was like that I didn't talk about/bring anything else just the one small issue. Are you not allowed to talk about more than one thing now? Did covid kill their bedside manor?