Anonymous wrote:My ADHD/HFA son was at Bethesda Elementary, which has no special programs but is known to be SN-friendly. He was more than a year behind at 5. He repeated Kindergarten, had private speech and physical therapy and I worked with him at home on basic reading and math, and general autism-friendly narration and explanations of his world. He was given an IEP in MCPS immediately with lots of pull-outs, a scribe (because he had dysgraphia and low processing speed, so he couldn't write much in the time imparted), and in-school group speech therapy.
But then reading became his area of hyperfocus, and he got very good at it very quickly. The math we did at home started to stick. He got so bored academically that they let him skip first grade and go directly to second (a rare occurence), ie, back with his peers. He still had accommodations, with an IEP, then a 504 plan: extended time on tests and to hand in assignments, because of low processing speed, use of a calculator because of his dyscalculia (for a few years, then he didn't need it), and a typing accommodation for the dysgraphia. I did teach him handwriting at home every year of elementary. He was medicated for the ADHD before middle school, and his grades shot up as a result.
So just keep in mind that your child's needs now do not reflect his future needs, and he might surprise you! Early intervention on all weak points is key.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and for the wealth of information you've provided. It’s inspiring to hear about your son’s journey and how his strengths and needs evolved over time. It’s a great reminder that early interventions and tailored supports can make such a difference, and how progress can sometimes exceed expectations in surprising ways.
Your dedication, both through the school system and at home, is commendable, and it’s encouraging to see how those efforts paid off—especially with his hyperfocus on reading and his academic growth. Your insights about accommodations, IEPs, and evolving needs provide so much hope and practical guidance for others navigating similar paths.
Thank you again for taking the time to share this—it’s truly appreciated!