I had a tough 50th and felt really down--about my health, weight, my overall situation. I did not want to celebrate, didn't want any photos, etc.--I could have written your post! On the day, I ended up taking a nice solo hike, having a quiet dinner with my family, and turned over a new leaf. It really kicked me into gear: Two years later, I'm in significantly better shape, physically and mentally--down 50+ pounds, walking 12K steps/day, doing pilates 4-5 days/week (had never done pilates before!), sleeping more consistently, and overall feel SO MUCH better than when I turned 50. In short, my 50th bday gift to myself was to prioritize my health and wellness. I wish the same for you! <3

If you are surrounded by loving family, count your blessings! I had a tough 50th. I'm still reeling a year later. Definitely don't worry about a big party.

I’m 53. I remember dreading turning 50 so much but once it happened it was anticlimactic and I was completely fine with it. I’m now dreading 60 though! (No offense meant to anyone who has already reached that milestone! 😊)

I think a nice trip instead of a big party sounds like a great idea.

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OP. Thank you everyone for the supportive messages and suggestions. I needed your encouragement so thank you so much!!

Come over to the beauty forum and let us help you feel good about yourself at this age!

I am not a party person (or a big birthday person). For my 50th, my husband and I took a week-long road trip to North Carolina. It was nice.

Happy birthday to you too - I hope you're feeling better soon.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe make your present to yourself a Wegovy consult. Decide that 51 will be different.

I was going to suggest this. Wegovy was life changing for me. Lost 40 pounds in a year and have never looked or felt better. Perimenopause is awful but wegovy helped me manage it

I broke my leg. lol. Not kidding. Thankfully not my hip. Prior to that had a week of dinners and lunches with friends and some spa treatments. I am more overweight than you and super short. Love who you are. You can have a big party for any birthday. Milestones are meh let the numbers go.


Also you look amazing.

Maybe join a gym for your birthday.

Don't be so down upon yourself. You are actually hitting that magic number where you realize there are so many things you don't have to give a rat's patootie about any more. It really does happen -- my mother told me it would, and it did. My friends also agree.

If you have friends who don't want to see you because you are not a size 2, those are exactly the people you need to jettison from your life. Do the event that you think would be fun for you (party, spa weekend, whatever) and don't look back.

Maybe make your present to yourself a Wegovy consult. Decide that 51 will be different.

Party? Photos? Yeah, no. I planned a fabulous weekend to NYC with my spouse. Took the train, went to a taping of a Colbert’s Late Show, had a facial, great food at Buvette, shopped for yarn at the amazing Purl Soho.

Embrace it with joy. Happy 50th!

Anonymous wrote:I always thought I’d have this blowout party and now realize I’m embarrassed to be seen or have photos taken while I’m 40 lbs overweight and menopausal and don’t drink anymore. Feel very yucky. How did others make it through their 50th birthday? Just feeling in a rut as I lead up to bday in a few months.

50 is tough. There is a huge amount of info online and social media on how to lose weight at this stage. I think it works. If you start now, you will feel better by your big day. Hang in there and prioritize your health

Black dress with blazer, new haircut, nature walks, coffees with friends 1:1 all do wonders for my perspective. Fifty is a big one but your 50s and 60s can still be amazing decades!

I always thought I’d have this blowout party and now realize I’m embarrassed to be seen or have photos taken while I’m 40 lbs overweight and menopausal and don’t drink anymore. Feel very yucky. How did others make it through their 50th birthday? Just feeling in a rut as I lead up to bday in a few months.