Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 09:02     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Then they don't get to sled and you don't do laundry. Prioritize what actually needs to be done. You can wear dirty clothes and have bored kids on tablets while you recover and do some semblance of work.


This. But I'm confused why DH is off the hook if you both work? I am SAHM so I have never understood the dynamics of this.


Agreed. Time for DH to tap in. Is he home?


OP - he is helping when he isn't on calls. But he typically has calls off and on all day starting at 8:30am until around 6pm. He has been helping in the evenings when he isn't working. But during the work hours he is working pretty much non-stop while I take care of the kids because there is no school.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 09:01     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Anonymous wrote:Then they don't get to sled and you don't do laundry. Prioritize what actually needs to be done. You can wear dirty clothes and have bored kids on tablets while you recover and do some semblance of work.


Yup, this. It took me a really long time to realize, but it's better for my kids to have a vaguely sane mom and miss some experiences than have a frazzled, stressed, snappish mom but do all the things.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 09:01     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids?


OP - kids are between 4-9 years old.


Time for them to learn life skills

They make the food . They help
With laundry etc . By the way laundry can wait keeping your house clean while you spread germs awesome parenting.

Get in the couch and do your dam job as a mother and teach them how to help you,

Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 09:00     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Then they don't get to sled and you don't do laundry. Prioritize what actually needs to be done. You can wear dirty clothes and have bored kids on tablets while you recover and do some semblance of work.


This. But I'm confused why DH is off the hook if you both work? I am SAHM so I have never understood the dynamics of this.


Agreed. Time for DH to tap in. Is he home?
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:58     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Anonymous wrote:Then they don't get to sled and you don't do laundry. Prioritize what actually needs to be done. You can wear dirty clothes and have bored kids on tablets while you recover and do some semblance of work.

This. Prioritize, OP. And, yes, it is hard and I sympathize. But also, you’re making it even harder.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:52     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids?


OP - kids are between 4-9 years old.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:46     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
How old are the kids?
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:44     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Anonymous wrote:Then they don't get to sled and you don't do laundry. Prioritize what actually needs to be done. You can wear dirty clothes and have bored kids on tablets while you recover and do some semblance of work.


This. But I'm confused why DH is off the hook if you both work? I am SAHM so I have never understood the dynamics of this.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:40     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Then they don't get to sled and you don't do laundry. Prioritize what actually needs to be done. You can wear dirty clothes and have bored kids on tablets while you recover and do some semblance of work.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:38     Subject: Re:No rest for the weary moms
Hugs OP. I’m in the thick of it now too. Try to be good to yourself.

Moms of older kids often say they miss the early cute years, but I have to think that the independence of older kids far outweighs the lack of cuteness!
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:34     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Sorry OP, that sucks. I would definitely take a sick day at least to get work off the docket. I know you said you have been off but that is what it is for.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:30     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Hugs OP!!! This is really hard.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:29     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Anonymous wrote:Laundry can wait. Ordered food. Dishes can also wait. The house can be a mess for a while when you’re sick.


Op - yes I am trying to let things slide as much as possible. Messy houses give me massive anxiety though so it’s trying to balance my anxiety and my actual sick body not being able to do everything.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:27     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
Laundry can wait. Ordered food. Dishes can also wait. The house can be a mess for a while when you’re sick.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2025 08:25     Subject: No rest for the weary moms
I am sick, stuck at home with my kids and trying to work at the same time. I am drowning. DH is trying to help but after being more or less off for the past 2 weeks with the kids winter break he is also super busy with work and can't take much time off.

So I am stuck taking kids out sledding, getting winter clothes on and off a zillion times, doing the loads of laundry, making food, doing dishes and walking the dog. Oh and I get to do all of this while sick and trying to actually get some work done to.

Life just isn't made to help out the working mom. Vent over while I go cry into my coffee and try not to throw up.