You shouldn't date people you are already judging. And they definitely shouldn't date you.

Are you just generally asking what men think about this? You don't really sound like a guy asking about a girl. Unless you're a woman dating other women then this makes more sense. But I don't think men are turned off by bikini pics.

Anonymous wrote:"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

Yep. She’s a thirsty attention seeker. That type of behavior is going to come out in other ways.

If she's posting that much, she's likely addicted to SM. There are problems beyond attention seeking/thirst trap posting.

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

The social media narcissism is out of control...

I’d pass

What’s an excessive number of followers? If it’s in the thousands does that potentially signal this person is doing other types of activity? “Only fans” for example? I met someone very attractive recently whose account is private so I can’t see what they post but the number of followers is over 5k. Im older so I don’t really do social media. Should I be concerned ?

I have a coworker who is fairly attractive. We started following each other on Instagram and I saw that she had no fewer than 30 posts in the gym with her derriere poking out. I would have never guessed this about her.

Anonymous wrote:I think it is okay if they are 5 posts that naturally come up in a day or with a little effort. If there is too much time put into making things for social media, move on.

It would be nice to meet someone who has a few posts of family and friends, some food, nice vacation pics, modest selfies and maybe a couple of swimsuit photos. That is rare.

Give it a shot. It’s not like you have a ticking biological clock.

way too many-seeking attention.

Obviously it bothers you so you have your answer. It doesn’t matter if we think it’s ok.

I think it is okay if they are 5 posts that naturally come up in a day or with a little effort. If there is too much time put into making things for social media, move on.

Sometimes I'm envious of older generations that didn't have to deal with social media. There's nothing more frustrating than meeting a seemingly sweet "girl next door" type only to discover that her Instagram/Tik Tok is full of thirst trapping or attention-seeking behavior. It seems that social media narcissism is one of these things that my generation simply has to "deal" with. If a woman is reasonably attractive and under 30, the temptation to seek attention on social media is too strong to resist.

I recently met a woman at a networking event. She checks all the boxes but she has 2K+ followers on Instagram. She posts at least 5 stories per day. Her posts aren't overly scandalous but she does have a decent number of swimsuit pics. If she seems okay in person, would the excessive posting and bikini pics keep you from dating her?