Anonymous wrote:Are love bombing her!

Really, it is her first serious relations (though she is in her twenties). I want her to take it slow, and focus on her future career, but I feel like they are really laying it on thick. It makes me think they want to lock her down, because their son is unlikely to do better.

or they feel he is in love and she is a good person?

Anonymous wrote:I was really hoping this was going to be a thread about her boyfriend’s patents!

+1

Genius inventor

I am probably guilty of love bombing my DS's girlfriend this holiday season - she's great and has strained relations with her very small family for reasons that are completely understandable. I love having her with us because we enjoy her company.

They are 23, in grad school, already living together. I don't think either one is ruining the other's future or that they should dump a 2.5 year relationship to focus on their careers. They are happy together. I have no particular expectations that she give anything up for my DS or vice versa.

You can want all you want, but it’s her life. You had your time to impart the importance of a career.

And if the relationship lasts, she will remember that his parents encouraged them and you pushed for career over love.

Anonymous wrote:I was really hoping this was going to be a thread about her boyfriend’s patents!

same, super disappointed.

I got love bombed by parents of couple of romantic interests. In both cases sons were not meant to be, but I was very charmed by second set of parents and siblings. They were a nice family.

Anonymous wrote:She’s an adult. MYOB.

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Anonymous wrote:How many patents does he have?

In what art space? Has he commercialized them?

My ILs love bombed me. More than 25 years later, they are still wonderful. (Yes, they were doing their part to get their son married off.)

How many patents does he have?

Do you know boyfriend well enough to deem him a loser?

I was really hoping this was going to be a thread about her boyfriend’s patents!

Try not to think of everything as so transactional. This isn't college applications and yield protection. Just be happy they are nice and she has a good relationship.

She’s an adult. MYOB.

Are love bombing her!

Really, it is her first serious relations (though she is in her twenties). I want her to take it slow, and focus on her future career, but I feel like they are really laying it on thick. It makes me think they want to lock her down, because their son is unlikely to do better.