Anonymous wrote:I would ask the regular care-giving relative what works. Is the person the primary caregiver because your LO cannot afford memory care? If the issue is not money, I would also be discussing MC. This will get worse and even these seemingly minor transitions to have you all take care of the LO while primary is out of town will cause a lot of problems. You may see outbursts, disorientation and even more incontinence from the stress of going to a new home.
Thanks for the suggestion, but they haven’t found anything that works which is why I’m so worried. DH and I expect that this is going to be unpleasant for all three of us. Our adult children and daughter in law are coming Christmas Day. That’s the main day that I worry about odor and leakage.
LO is on a waitlist and may go to a facility as early as February.