Anonymous
12/22/2024 17:21
Subject: Re:So over the judgments
These people are feeling uncomfortable because you’ve silently proven to them that weight loss is possible. Ignore
Anonymous
12/21/2024 21:10
Subject: So over the judgments
Anonymous wrote:Ignore.
There are people who often comment on others' bodies and weight. I don't understand the impulse but I don't like it. I used to work with someone like this; it was like she was keeping tabs on everyone's weight in our office. It's weird that they are watching everyone and there was a definite airof approval/disapproval. I make it a point to never comment on someone's weight loss. I hate when people say that someone looks great after weight loss because it implies they looked bad before and maybe they didn't or it's a tell that the person thought they looked bad. Sometimes the commenter may never have said much to the person until they lost weight so it's like saying, you are visible to me now; I approve.
I've been around people who comment on what I'm eating, how much, how little. I knew a couple of these people had esting disorders. I think it's rude and presumptuous.
Ignore and keep ignoring.
+100
Anonymous
12/21/2024 20:37
Subject: So over the judgments
Ignore.
There are people who often comment on others' bodies and weight. I don't understand the impulse but I don't like it. I used to work with someone like this; it was like she was keeping tabs on everyone's weight in our office. It's weird that they are watching everyone and there was a definite airof approval/disapproval. I make it a point to never comment on someone's weight loss. I hate when people say that someone looks great after weight loss because it implies they looked bad before and maybe they didn't or it's a tell that the person thought they looked bad. Sometimes the commenter may never have said much to the person until they lost weight so it's like saying, you are visible to me now; I approve.
I've been around people who comment on what I'm eating, how much, how little. I knew a couple of these people had esting disorders. I think it's rude and presumptuous.
Ignore and keep ignoring.
There are people who often comment on others' bodies and weight. I don't understand the impulse but I don't like it. I used to work with someone like this; it was like she was keeping tabs on everyone's weight in our office. It's weird that they are watching everyone and there was a definite airof approval/disapproval. I make it a point to never comment on someone's weight loss. I hate when people say that someone looks great after weight loss because it implies they looked bad before and maybe they didn't or it's a tell that the person thought they looked bad. Sometimes the commenter may never have said much to the person until they lost weight so it's like saying, you are visible to me now; I approve.
I've been around people who comment on what I'm eating, how much, how little. I knew a couple of these people had esting disorders. I think it's rude and presumptuous.
Ignore and keep ignoring.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 20:05
Subject: So over the judgments
They are jealous.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 19:19
Subject: So over the judgments
Remember these comments are about the speaker and their own insecurities, not about you.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 17:16
Subject: So over the judgments
I don’t like any weight or food comments. I was at a kid event and a dad commented I had put very little food on my plate. Had never met the guy. I am heavy and trying to lose weight and really should not have to discuss my food intake with strangers.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 17:01
Subject: So over the judgments
I lost a ton of weight and have kept it off. I also completely turned around my lifestyle. My law firm partners have never stopped talking about it. I never spoke about any of it, and still don't. None of them can probably run a mile. I run almost 40 miles a week sometimes. Sucks to be them.
Ignore it.
Ignore it.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 16:54
Subject: So over the judgments
Anonymous wrote:I have lost a lot of weight in the last year, going from obese to thin in healthy BMI range. And the unsolicited comments from people haven’t stopped. “Eat a doughnut.” “Don’t lose any more weight.” “I’m worried about you.” I haven’t invited these comments at all, haven’t discussed my lifestyle changes unless asked, and am well within the healthy weight range. Wtf is wrong with people that they feel free to make comments about my weight? It’s like the body positivity movement only applies if you’re fat. I hate it.
People can't stand it when other people make healthy choices.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 16:33
Subject: So over the judgments
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have lost a lot of weight in the last year, going from obese to thin in healthy BMI range. And the unsolicited comments from people haven’t stopped. “Eat a doughnut.” “Don’t lose any more weight.” “I’m worried about you.” I haven’t invited these comments at all, haven’t discussed my lifestyle changes unless asked, and am well within the healthy weight range. Wtf is wrong with people that they feel free to make comments about my weight? It’s like the body positivity movement only applies if you’re fat. I hate it.
We are only hearing one side of the story so nothing we can say here. Either you have an eating disorder as your friends and family claim, or you do not, as you claim. There is no way for us to know. We can give you a there there poor thing everyone is being so mean to you.
NP. WTF is this response? It doesn't sound at all like anyone thinks OP has an eating disorder, it sounds like she is surrounded by rude people. Even if someone was worried you don't lead with that. it sounds like concern trolling from people who may be jealous.
OP, my DH lost a lot of weight due to health problems. He started saying "I'm having some health problems I'd rather not discuss" and then would stare as people fell all over themselves with embarrassment (and when they would ask more questions he would repeat "I said I prefer not to discuss it").
Also, my MIL comments on people's weight all the time. She likes to talk about how fat my SIL's children are behind her back and then compliment me on how slim I am in front of everyone. I have just started saying "It's 2024. We don't talk about bodies anymore."
Anonymous
12/21/2024 16:30
Subject: Re:So over the judgments
OP here. I do not have anything close to an ED. I focus on lean proteins, vegetables, and healthy fats during the week and have tons of water and green tea. And I walk between 12-15k steps per day. On weekends I go out to eat 1-2 times and eat whatever I want. If I want something less healthy during the week I sometimes have it but try to stick with a reasonable portion. I’ve overhauled my lifestyle which is why it’s working. No fad diets. I eat three meals a day and sometimes a snack in the afternoons.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 16:25
Subject: So over the judgments
How did you lose the weight? I need help.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 16:25
Subject: So over the judgments
Anonymous wrote:I have lost a lot of weight in the last year, going from obese to thin in healthy BMI range. And the unsolicited comments from people haven’t stopped. “Eat a doughnut.” “Don’t lose any more weight.” “I’m worried about you.” I haven’t invited these comments at all, haven’t discussed my lifestyle changes unless asked, and am well within the healthy weight range. Wtf is wrong with people that they feel free to make comments about my weight? It’s like the body positivity movement only applies if you’re fat. I hate it.
We are only hearing one side of the story so nothing we can say here. Either you have an eating disorder as your friends and family claim, or you do not, as you claim. There is no way for us to know. We can give you a there there poor thing everyone is being so mean to you.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 16:24
Subject: So over the judgments
^ and yes, the body positivity movement has always been about putting a stop to fat-shaming. Thin-shaming is alive and well.
Anonymous
12/21/2024 16:23
Subject: So over the judgments
Politely ignore. All these comments will disappear once the novelty has worn off. I've been at a 19 BMI all my life and no one has ever made any comments.
Some people will try to compliment you but don't want to be insensitive, so they'll make odd remarks like that. No need to bother yourself about it.
Congratulations, OP. Here's to keeping the weight to a number that makes you happy!
Some people will try to compliment you but don't want to be insensitive, so they'll make odd remarks like that. No need to bother yourself about it.
Congratulations, OP. Here's to keeping the weight to a number that makes you happy!
Anonymous
12/21/2024 16:14
Subject: So over the judgments
I have lost a lot of weight in the last year, going from obese to thin in healthy BMI range. And the unsolicited comments from people haven’t stopped. “Eat a doughnut.” “Don’t lose any more weight.” “I’m worried about you.” I haven’t invited these comments at all, haven’t discussed my lifestyle changes unless asked, and am well within the healthy weight range. Wtf is wrong with people that they feel free to make comments about my weight? It’s like the body positivity movement only applies if you’re fat. I hate it.