Anonymous wrote:White folks will never validate your experience. I had the same thing happen to me when I was young and looking for a house share. It's hard to prove, but it's our reality. I just went straight to daycare. Good luck.
Anonymous wrote:Are you on daycare lists? If not, get on some.
Welcome to parenthood, where child care is a big piece.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think we expressed a lot of flexibility (open to either hosting or having it at their house, flexible with start and end time, and open to discussing/exchanging ideas on how their days would typically look, etc). It’s true that you can never really know what other factors are at play. I just feel a bit stuck now and trying to find a solution based on my gut feeling about what appears to be the issue.
We had decided on nanny share because we wanted our child to have a bit more personal attention and naively thought it would be a little easier to arrange given that it seems to be the most common childcare arrangement in the neighborhood from what I’ve gleaned…
Is this a poorer neighborhood? I don’t understand why a one on one nanny would be prohibitively expensive unless HHI was really low. I’ve also never heard of anyone with a nanny share.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think we expressed a lot of flexibility (open to either hosting or having it at their house, flexible with start and end time, and open to discussing/exchanging ideas on how their days would typically look, etc). It’s true that you can never really know what other factors are at play. I just feel a bit stuck now and trying to find a solution based on my gut feeling about what appears to be the issue.
We had decided on nanny share because we wanted our child to have a bit more personal attention and naively thought it would be a little easier to arrange given that it seems to be the most common childcare arrangement in the neighborhood from what I’ve gleaned…
Is this a poorer neighborhood? I don’t understand why a one on one nanny would be prohibitively expensive unless HHI was really low. I’ve also never heard of anyone with a nanny share.
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think we expressed a lot of flexibility (open to either hosting or having it at their house, flexible with start and end time, and open to discussing/exchanging ideas on how their days would typically look, etc). It’s true that you can never really know what other factors are at play. I just feel a bit stuck now and trying to find a solution based on my gut feeling about what appears to be the issue.
We had decided on nanny share because we wanted our child to have a bit more personal attention and naively thought it would be a little easier to arrange given that it seems to be the most common childcare arrangement in the neighborhood from what I’ve gleaned…