Many of the married women who pot here are mentally ill even though they always call their DHs the mentally ill ones. Don't listen to these women they are miserable.

For kids. So their kids won’t be called a bastard.
For wealth. So they become wealthy if they marry a wealthy man.
To fit into society. Some women think they have failed if they don’t marry.

Cultural indoctrination.

It’s disappearing with the younger generation, fortunately.

Some of us are happily married, but we go to DCUM on bad days when we need to vent anonymously.

Anonymous wrote:Why do women still want to be married?
Most married women playing on this forum are unhappy. And if we extrapolate to most women in this country marriage seems to be a loosing proposing for women. Yet so many women still dream of walking down the aisle. Why is that? Is it mostly for the legal, financial and medical benefits? Or is it an immense feeling of pride to be someone's else wife?

This is an extraordinary leap. For better or for worse, the DCUM female population is not nearly a reflection of the the country as a whole. Or even a representative of the the DC metro area. It is a tiny sampling of high income, high education women. To extrapolate beyond a few similar zip codes scattered across the country is ridiculousness of the highest order.

Because many of us want to be married and have families. Ideally the guys want the same thing and are carrying their weight in those pursuits, but usually it doesn’t work out that way exactly.

The women who are content in their marriage don't post here. The forum presents a skewed view of marriage.

If you want to have children getting married (to a financially stable partner) definitely helps provide some protections.

If for some reason you needed to step back from work to take care of your kids in most states you would have the right to 50% of your spouses income earned during the years you are married. And statistically, it is usually the woman who steps back in their career when time needed to manage and support kids increases.

And, it is a bit of safety net for either spouse if there is a serious medical issue and one spouse needs to stop work (even temporarily) - you have the abilty to get health insurance through your spouse (if you have FT jobs with insurance).

But honestly other than that you could work out specific contracts for jointly owning property, medical POA, etc.

I would like to see a survey. My guess is that less than 50% of women between 25 and 50 want to be married if they are single.

Because in your 20s you are full of hope. It isn't until it's too late that you realize how foolish you were. Not all women, just a lot, including myself. Working on my exit though.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do women still want to be married?
Most married women playing on this forum are unhappy. And if we extrapolate to most women in this country marriage seems to be a loosing proposing for women. Yet so many women still dream of walking down the aisle. Why is that? Is it mostly for the legal, financial and medical benefits? Or is it an immense feeling of pride to be someone's else wife?

Many women want children. After that the husband becomes disposable. Also, there are plenty of happy women...they just don't post here. Finally, it's a "losing" proposition.

So women marry for kids first? And once they reach that goal they look at hubby more carefully to see his added value lol?

Anonymous wrote:Why do women still want to be married?
Most married women playing on this forum are unhappy. And if we extrapolate to most women in this country marriage seems to be a loosing proposing for women. Yet so many women still dream of walking down the aisle. Why is that? Is it mostly for the legal, financial and medical benefits? Or is it an immense feeling of pride to be someone's else wife?

Many women want children. After that the husband becomes disposable. Also, there are plenty of happy women...they just don't post here. Finally, it's a "losing" proposition.

Anonymous wrote:Why do women still want to be married?
Most married women playing on this forum are unhappy. And if we extrapolate to most women in this country marriage seems to be a loosing proposing for women. Yet so many women still dream of walking down the aisle. Why is that? Is it mostly for the legal, financial and medical benefits? Or is it an immense feeling of pride to be someone's else wife?

Who are you? Who feels 'immense pride' of being someone's wife?

At a not so distant past women were embarrassed at teaching a certain age and not being married. Thankfully that's no longer the case. Women are very successful today. In fact most single homeowners today under 40 are actually women. They are having success at work as well climbing corporate ladders.

The question of course is what do these independent and successful women get from marriage especially since there is more than 50% chance that will do the child rearing alone, household management alone, sex will die out in a decade or so and on and on?

Why do women still want to be married?
Most married women playing on this forum are unhappy. And if we extrapolate to most women in this country marriage seems to be a loosing proposing for women. Yet so many women still dream of walking down the aisle. Why is that? Is it mostly for the legal, financial and medical benefits? Or is it an immense feeling of pride to be someone's else wife?