Well my middle child told us the other day that its not fair that everything always goes in the order of oldest to youngest or youngest to older (like who gets to choose something) and she is always stuck in the middle. I told her that was a fair point and we will just have a rotating system now where each one gets the first choice and then we rotate. I didn't think of it from her perspective until she said that.

3 is an interesting dynamic. I think its the hardest. I wish we could have had a 4th but I am old and don't want to go back to infanthood. Its always 2 v 1 in our house but its a moving target as to who is on whose side.

I'm three weeks postpartum with my third. I am finding the transition a lot harder than 1-2, but not as hard as 0-1. My middle had the toughest time at first and was just a nightmare over Thanksgiving break, but he's starting to normalize and I think the sense of responsibility and protectiveness and pride he is starting to feel is helping, and it's really sweet to see him embrace it.

Hardest parts so far are feeling like I need octopus arms to care for everyone who needs me in the same moments. Postpartum experience is totally different -- zero time to rest and recuperate, especially at this time of year with the older kids.

But it's exactly what I wanted, and I feel so accomplished and proud that we did it. I grew up one of three, and had to lobby my husband hard for this last one, but I am so happy to be on the other side. I just think three is the perfect amount of kids! And I say that as a midle child. Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:I thought you were going to abort because your husband didnt want it?

You must have the wrong post…

Anonymous wrote:My third is the biggest drama llama and not at all go with the flow. But the kids all get along great

Do we have the same 3rd? Mine is like a second firstborn - loves to take charge, huge personality, but without the firstborn sense of responsibility. People love my 3rd though. And having 3 relatively close in age is nice because when 1 kid doesn't want to play there's still yet another kid who might be interested in playing.

Anonymous wrote:We have three across in a small Toyota suv and also our older Honda Civic. It’s possible

We had 3 across in the middle row of our minivan and in a Subaru Outback. Now that my kids are older/out of any seat (in 2 cases) and they sprawl all over the minivan I kind of miss having them crammed close.

My third is the biggest drama llama and not at all go with the flow. But the kids all get along great

I thought three was easy (compared to two), but I had an easy third baby. Three carseats was difficult, but the transition itself wasn't bad.

We have three across in a small Toyota suv and also our older Honda Civic. It’s possible

Third babies are the best!

They tend to be funny and easygoing ... they have to be, as they get dragged around to their siblings' events.

Aside from the aforementioned inconvenience with hotel rooms, it's just a matter of life being more expensive. But I love having three.

I found the adjustment to three in the younger years pretty easy. The baby just fit right in with our family. It is now, that I find it way more exhausting. Harder to deal with the big issues that face the preteen, but then also have a kindergartener who needs a lot of attention. Then I can’t forget the middle child! Now everyone has very unique needs and different places to be, and I find that exhausting. When they were younger, it was much simpler.

Agree with PPs

Very difficult to fit three across carseats so you're looking at a mini van or 3rd row SUV

First year will be super hard. Once the oldest is 7, you'll be in a groove, the two older ones will be helpful and the baby will love them. Hardest thing is not neglecting Middle, and keeping youngest from ruining art projects, homework, toys, etc, belonging to the two oldest.

Anonymous wrote:Hotel rooms - bad

This and restaurants. Tables are for four. But the rest is amazing and these are minor inconveniences.

Hotel rooms - bad

Pregnant with 3rd.

Tell me all the good and bad about three kids.
Each child will be approximately 3 years a part.


What is easy, what’s hardest.

Unexpected challenges?