I mean, it depends, doesn’t it? Our kids chose UVA and a top 10 (not top 5) liberal arts college, each one of them turning down slightly higher ranked schools for practical reasons (money, choice of major, etc.). These schools were more than good enough for us to hold our heads up high with family, friends and at social events, and we didn’t feel the slightest bit of envy or annoyance over where anybody else’s kid went to college, even Harvard.

Some of our friends were clearly jealous of our kids’ college admissions and did a poor (or no) job of hiding it. Pretty silly, really, especially considering that a few years down the road it became - and, to many of you, will become - obvious that it doesn’t matter in the slightest.

Anonymous wrote:If someone else’s kid gets into HYPS and yours is at JMU (or maybe even UVA) then you know on some level you’re going to feel salty about it.

My kid went to JMU and truly is a superstar. STFU if you think that way. It’s insane. Only thing I’m salty about is the people who talk down to people for just living their lives the way they want and being envious and condescending about their success for reasons that make absolutely no sense to a rational human being. You are a loser PP.

I’m very non-intense about college but that’s because I remember the deep stress of it when I was in high school and I don’t think it’s necessary. I think kids can thrive and excel, or not, in a lot of colleges. There are a few career paths where it matters more, but only for the middling people.

Anonymous wrote:If someone else’s kid gets into HYPS and yours is at JMU (or maybe even UVA) then you know on some level you’re going to feel salty about it.

And by that I mean someone you actually know.

If someone else’s kid gets into HYPS and yours is at JMU (or maybe even UVA) then you know on some level you’re going to feel salty about it.

I don't care but some people use it as a pathetic measuring stick to show how great everything is going for them.

Anonymous wrote:Nope, nobody else cares.

Agree. Not an ounce.

Yes. Absolutely love gossip.

I know a few people do care in the way you're describing, which is in the judging way. They are all genuinely horrible people and I hate that they have this power to belittle people.

There is a difference in caring because you want kids to be happy and get into the schools they want or get into schools with their friends and acting like you care just so you can judge.

I do. To a degree. I like seeing other kids get into their schools of choice just like mine did.

Don't care. School isn't everything. I know people who went to state schools and schools I never even heard of who became law partners alongside people who went to Ivies. I know people who didn't go to college who say the most interesting things and have the most fascinating ways of looking at life.

Yes. My autistic DS is attached to his friend group. Hopefully they can be all at nearby schools.

Nope, nobody else cares.

No.

Do you ever wonder if you're worrying too much about what other people think of where your child attends up attending school?

Like in a previous thread, a parent, god forbid, worried about her child going to UVA instead of an ivy.. does anyone actually give a second thought to where someone else's kid ends up going? I wonder if we are so wrapped up in this out of some desire to impress our family and friends.