OP, sorry, that is upsetting and not fair. It reminds me of when my kid “graduated” from elementary school on a zoom during Covid, and one kid was left out completely. I mean, I thought elementary school graduation was silly, but I did feel for the one kid that was skipped.

Is there a logistical reason why your daughter keeps being left out? Last name in the alphabet?

Anonymous wrote:Op here
I have thought about it in a calm manner.
And this , being the second time forgotten, really is unfair. Period.
The athletes work very hard to be able to perform in regionals. This was just a small acknowledgement of that at the end of a season.

You're right. The coach's reaction is unprofessional. Mistakes happen but if I made that mistake I would be so mortified and apologetic.

Op here
I have thought about it in a calm manner.
And this , being the second time forgotten, really is unfair. Period.
The athletes work very hard to be able to perform in regionals. This was just a small acknowledgement of that at the end of a season.

Anonymous wrote:Same coach?

Do you have another year?

Next time before the awards ceremony telling the coach, you know things can get busy this time of year but you are looking forward to hearing your kids name called.

What's the harm? If they are lame enough to keep this up for 2 years, they weren't even thinking about your kid at all.

Op here
Thanks. Yes it’s the same coach.
I didnt tell dd anything about how I approached , but did ask her how did this happen again , she just said they forgot.

I'm sorry OP, that's unacceptable. Next time send a friendly note reminding them your daughter's name was omitted from the list twice and needs to be added. It is not fair to your daughter. It probably is just a mistake and sloppiness. Advocate for her but don't fixate in front of her. This is about adults who aren't careful to double check.

Same coach?

Do you have another year?

Next time before the awards ceremony telling the coach, you know things can get busy this time of year but you are looking forward to hearing your kids name called.

What's the harm? If they are lame enough to keep this up for 2 years, they weren't even thinking about your kid at all.

OP, I'm surrounded by people who think 95% accuracy is great. And there has been a shortage of volunteers for school and kid activities in most of the places I'm familiar with.

Probably what happened was whoever organized the banquet this time re-used the list/program from last time.

Forgive the organizers. Tell your kid that people can be imperfect, their mistakes aren't intentionally offensive, and to focus on getting it right herself if she takes on such an organizing task in the future.

It's not worth dwelling on.

Getting the varsity letter and pins isn’t that big of a deal. Calm down.

op here
sorry mixed up he/she in typos.
It’s dd.

Op here.
It happened again. Instead of being called, she was forgotten and given her pin little later at the dinner ( at the end of Season dinner.) Coach went to her later and just gave her.
Second time this happened… forgotten.

She worked very hard this season again. Another parent noticed and said it wasnt fair to her as she worked hard too.

Today I joked later with the coach and said that that she keeps coming home with pins but I dont see her going up to get it. The coach responded that “ atleast she is getting them.” I just laughed it off yes true.

But I am really upset. How come he is the only one being forgotten? It truly isnt fair. The joy of going upto getting an award vs him getting it by himself carelessly later, is not the same.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly good for your daughter having the confidence to just go up there instead of feeling embarrassed. That's great. A lot of people, even adults, would have felt too awkward and sat and stewed.

I am guessing by forgot they mean they went off a list and someone forgot to add her or messed up copying and pasting or something. It does NOT mean she is not valued. The person making the list was stressed or busy.

+10000x

I agree, good on your daughter for having the confidence as well as courage to go up there on her own.

I know I definitely could never have done such a thing when I was younger.

She will definitely go places in life. 👍🏽👏🏽👍🏽👏🏽

Stop borrowing trouble. Your daughter is fine, this affected her, not you, just move on.

Honestly good for your daughter having the confidence to just go up there instead of feeling embarrassed. That's great. A lot of people, even adults, would have felt too awkward and sat and stewed.

I am guessing by forgot they mean they went off a list and someone forgot to add her or messed up copying and pasting or something. It does NOT mean she is not valued. The person making the list was stressed or busy.

Op here,
Should I casually mention this to one of the team moms?
(This coach will again be in the next season which she is planning to join- obviously dont want it to backfire)

My dd was in a dinner where awards were presented.

She wasnt called when everyone else’s name was called to go to the front stage area , to stand in lie after receiving either a Varsity patch or a pin.

So she just went up herself after the last person was called out, and they gave her her pin (because she was overlooked)

I asked her how come she was at the end - she said they just forgot.

She was right in the front table, literally in front of the coaches.

How could they “forget”??

Dd is ok , but I feel the disappointment.
Every single persons name was called out except hers. And she worked very hard over the season and is in the top 10.

I am quite miffed- am I wrong to feel this way?