Anonymous
11/08/2024 11:56
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes. My athlete was put on B team last year. It was utter BS. Other coaches disagreed. Other parents disagreed. But there is no questioning the decision with person who made the call.
My athlete is legitimately good (as well as hard worker and amazing teammate). Played well at a national level. Has played lights out for the club on multiple occasions (before the decision). Was being recruited by D1, 2, and 3 schools. Was smack in the middle of that. So it could have really impacted things negatively.
We were furious. But knowing there was nothing to be done, we demoted the club as a priority (no more prioritizing the practices and events). Guested with other clubs and was able to showcase the playing without our club. Had many offers to play as a result.
After that, my kid has rocked the sport and will be on the A team this year. Coaches are all of a sudden thrilled about DC bc of watching how they’ve played amazing since the snub. I have zero love for the club but the fawning is hilarious now.
The whole thing taught there is no loyalty sports. None. Zero. Among many other negative things.
But it also showed how you can work for yourself and for your goals in many different ways. You want something? Get it.
This!!!! Youth sports is so political. Do what’s best for your kid. Those other parents aren’t your friends anyway.
The last sentence - it took me way too many years to really get that.
Anonymous
11/08/2024 11:50
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. My athlete was put on B team last year. It was utter BS. Other coaches disagreed. Other parents disagreed. But there is no questioning the decision with person who made the call.
My athlete is legitimately good (as well as hard worker and amazing teammate). Played well at a national level. Has played lights out for the club on multiple occasions (before the decision). Was being recruited by D1, 2, and 3 schools. Was smack in the middle of that. So it could have really impacted things negatively.
We were furious. But knowing there was nothing to be done, we demoted the club as a priority (no more prioritizing the practices and events). Guested with other clubs and was able to showcase the playing without our club. Had many offers to play as a result.
After that, my kid has rocked the sport and will be on the A team this year. Coaches are all of a sudden thrilled about DC bc of watching how they’ve played amazing since the snub. I have zero love for the club but the fawning is hilarious now.
The whole thing taught there is no loyalty sports. None. Zero. Among many other negative things.
But it also showed how you can work for yourself and for your goals in many different ways. You want something? Get it.
This!!!! Youth sports is so political. Do what’s best for your kid. Those other parents aren’t your friends anyway.
Anonymous
11/08/2024 11:48
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Playing for our schools team DS got slotted into a position he absolutely hates on defense. It was really necessary for him to play at least 50% of the time in that role but the coach could easily have swapped him and another player from the offense for 50% but she absolutely refused.
He also had a ton of growing pains to work through as well on top of the position and the whole season was pretty rough. Now though, he's picked up some mental toughness, is a better defender and attacker, and is pouring everything into making sure his club coach wants him in an attacking role.
In the moment, if I'd have let him, he'd would have quit for sure and damn the consequences.
He also had a ton of growing pains to work through as well on top of the position and the whole season was pretty rough. Now though, he's picked up some mental toughness, is a better defender and attacker, and is pouring everything into making sure his club coach wants him in an attacking role.
In the moment, if I'd have let him, he'd would have quit for sure and damn the consequences.
Anonymous
11/08/2024 10:17
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Mine started the season getting shorted playing time, I think playing roughly 10% of the game. 2 of the three coaches had an unfavorable opinion of him, and it is unclear where it came from. He's had to repeatedly prove himself in practice and games to get roughly equal time with other kids. In our recent player-parent meetings, the coaches acted as if he'd made dramatic improvements (under their guidance), which is wrong.
He hasn't even had enough opportunities to develop this season. He just started the season with a poor reputation with them, and it is unclear why.
He hasn't even had enough opportunities to develop this season. He just started the season with a poor reputation with them, and it is unclear why.
Anonymous
11/08/2024 10:01
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Yes. My teen plays a niche individual sport and was very highly ranked nationally in her age group. Alas, with so many coaching changes in our area (not so easy to find good niche sport coaches around here), she got discouraged, plateaued, started getting beaten by opponents she could easily win before. I wanted to pull her out and have her try other sports but she did not want to. Thankfully, a great coach moved into our area and it has been life changing for her.
Setbacks will always happen, but it's how you help your child navigate through them that makes all the difference. Good luck for your child.
Setbacks will always happen, but it's how you help your child navigate through them that makes all the difference. Good luck for your child.
Anonymous
11/08/2024 09:53
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
We move a lot for work so my child often misses the tryouts and therefore we get him on whatever team has a coach receptive to giving him a shot, which is usually the B team. He is talented enough in both of his sports to play at a higher level, but at the end of the day he just wants to play and doesn’t really care which team he’s on. He has made many good friends and is having a great time.
So much of sports is mental, OP. It’s really good for kids to learn that they don’t need to base their worth on how others perceive them, which for most youth sports and most youth athletes is the only real difference between higher and lower level teams. IMO.
So much of sports is mental, OP. It’s really good for kids to learn that they don’t need to base their worth on how others perceive them, which for most youth sports and most youth athletes is the only real difference between higher and lower level teams. IMO.
Anonymous
11/08/2024 08:02
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Nearly everyone goes through such disappointments, OP. My kid was diagnosed with a chronic disease that progresses in flares, and now cannot do a sport at any competitive level. It's strictly rec. She sometimes misses school and extra-curriculars due to her symptoms. But most healthy, normally developing children can't be good at everything either.
Anonymous
11/08/2024 07:57
Subject: Re:Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
My kid didn’t make the highest level and all star teams in the sport he’s going to play in college. He still has a chip on his shoulder about it and I don’t think he would have worked as hard in those middle school years if he had been placed in that top group early on.
It is hard in the moment, though! Hang in there.
It is hard in the moment, though! Hang in there.
Anonymous
11/08/2024 06:34
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My athlete was knocked down to a B team and thrived there by being a leader, getting more time etc. They made new friends too. When they got to HS, they made Varsity and thrived.
Teammate (and DS’s good friend) got cut from A team and played B for a season. His parents were enraged and fueled the kids upset, but ultimately it was the right call and kid got to play positions they would not have played on A team. Got a ton of playing time on B. Hoping he sees the results of the extra reps/increased versatility at HS tryouts.
What grade? Why were they mad? Was it fair
Anonymous
11/08/2024 06:25
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Anonymous wrote:My athlete was knocked down to a B team and thrived there by being a leader, getting more time etc. They made new friends too. When they got to HS, they made Varsity and thrived.
Teammate (and DS’s good friend) got cut from A team and played B for a season. His parents were enraged and fueled the kids upset, but ultimately it was the right call and kid got to play positions they would not have played on A team. Got a ton of playing time on B. Hoping he sees the results of the extra reps/increased versatility at HS tryouts.
Anonymous
11/07/2024 21:33
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Yes. It’s a good thing. They’ll survive and be the better for it.
Anonymous
11/07/2024 21:28
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
My athlete was knocked down to a B team and thrived there by being a leader, getting more time etc. They made new friends too. When they got to HS, they made Varsity and thrived.
Anonymous
11/07/2024 21:25
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Yes. My athlete was put on B team last year. It was utter BS. Other coaches disagreed. Other parents disagreed. But there is no questioning the decision with person who made the call.
My athlete is legitimately good (as well as hard worker and amazing teammate). Played well at a national level. Has played lights out for the club on multiple occasions (before the decision). Was being recruited by D1, 2, and 3 schools. Was smack in the middle of that. So it could have really impacted things negatively.
We were furious. But knowing there was nothing to be done, we demoted the club as a priority (no more prioritizing the practices and events). Guested with other clubs and was able to showcase the playing without our club. Had many offers to play as a result.
After that, my kid has rocked the sport and will be on the A team this year. Coaches are all of a sudden thrilled about DC bc of watching how they’ve played amazing since the snub. I have zero love for the club but the fawning is hilarious now.
The whole thing taught there is no loyalty sports. None. Zero. Among many other negative things.
But it also showed how you can work for yourself and for your goals in many different ways. You want something? Get it.
My athlete is legitimately good (as well as hard worker and amazing teammate). Played well at a national level. Has played lights out for the club on multiple occasions (before the decision). Was being recruited by D1, 2, and 3 schools. Was smack in the middle of that. So it could have really impacted things negatively.
We were furious. But knowing there was nothing to be done, we demoted the club as a priority (no more prioritizing the practices and events). Guested with other clubs and was able to showcase the playing without our club. Had many offers to play as a result.
After that, my kid has rocked the sport and will be on the A team this year. Coaches are all of a sudden thrilled about DC bc of watching how they’ve played amazing since the snub. I have zero love for the club but the fawning is hilarious now.
The whole thing taught there is no loyalty sports. None. Zero. Among many other negative things.
But it also showed how you can work for yourself and for your goals in many different ways. You want something? Get it.
Anonymous
11/07/2024 21:25
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
Anonymous wrote:I mean things like cut from a team, made a B team, did not get a great position they wanted, etc? How did those things turn out to have a positive impact on your child as they developed? I could use a little positivity or encourage for my youth Athlete
My kid didn't grow. So he had to make adjustments. And now he's a libero. He's happy with it but he still wants to be a hitter.
Anonymous
11/07/2024 21:01
Subject: Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?
I mean things like cut from a team, made a B team, did not get a great position they wanted, etc? How did those things turn out to have a positive impact on your child as they developed? I could use a little positivity or encourage for my youth Athlete