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Anonymous wrote:Ya once my daughters are out of the volleyball i am going to go all out but until then they will get retaliated against so have to fight to stay anonymous. But i also feel bad about witnessing something so wrong and not being able to do anything

I'm so sorry this happened to you, its terrible. You should definitely reach out to a CHRVA leader not affiliated with the club in any way and tell them what happened. It doesn't matter if the coach/club has a member on the board or staff, its still wrong. In fact, if a CHRVA board/staff member is part of a club where this happens, then that is even more concerning because it could allow the club to become even more aggressive in their actions if not called out. Yes, you are potentially protecting your daughter from retaliation by not speaking out, but by holding off until your DDs finish playing you just guarantee many other girls suffer through exactly the same behavior.

Email/call the ethics leader or commissioner directly and tell them what is happening, ask to keep your info anonymous and then ask them how to address the situation.

Anonymous wrote:Ya once my daughters are out of the volleyball i am going to go all out but until then they will get retaliated against so have to fight to stay anonymous. But i also feel bad about witnessing something so wrong and not being able to do anything

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you ya there will definitely be retaliation based on how that club works. I did see that policy on CHRVA website but need an anonymous way because they just had a coach get a position at CHRVA last year so it will definitely get around to them

There are several ways to handle this, but staying anonymous could be difficult. If you have written proof of what happened, you may not need to disclose your name, just show the CHRVA staff (either ethics or president) the document with information identifying your player removed.

If you don’t have written proof, you probably need to talk directly with a CHRVA leader and that will require you to disclose personal info.

In either case, consider not just the impact on your player but the fact that many other players were probably treated the same way. The CHRVA rules exist to protect players from exactly these situations, where coaches can use their power to coerce players to accept offers. If this happens and no one speaks up, the coach will feel empowered to do it again and the next time it happens it may be worse. It’s never easy to step forward and call out bad behavior when there are consequences to your DD for doing so, but it’s the right thing to do.

Also, if you tried out at multiple clubs and a different one gave you an offer, you could have talked to the new club about helping you during open tryouts. There are many MD clubs that follow the rules and help players when they hear of rules violations, but they can’t help you much once you’ve accepted an offer with another club.

Many MD high school coaches did this during the club tryout hinting less playing time in high school if not sign immediately. We should report this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you ya there will definitely be retaliation based on how that club works. I did see that policy on CHRVA website but need an anonymous way because they just had a coach get a position at CHRVA last year so it will definitely get around to them

There are several ways to handle this, but staying anonymous could be difficult. If you have written proof of what happened, you may not need to disclose your name, just show the CHRVA staff (either ethics or president) the document with information identifying your player removed.

If you don’t have written proof, you probably need to talk directly with a CHRVA leader and that will require you to disclose personal info.

In either case, consider not just the impact on your player but the fact that many other players were probably treated the same way. The CHRVA rules exist to protect players from exactly these situations, where coaches can use their power to coerce players to accept offers. If this happens and no one speaks up, the coach will feel empowered to do it again and the next time it happens it may be worse. It’s never easy to step forward and call out bad behavior when there are consequences to your DD for doing so, but it’s the right thing to do.

Also, if you tried out at multiple clubs and a different one gave you an offer, you could have talked to the new club about helping you during open tryouts. There are many MD clubs that follow the rules and help players when they hear of rules violations, but they can’t help you much once you’ve accepted an offer with another club.

Many MD high school coaches did this during the club tryout hinting less playing time in high school if not sign immediately. We should report this.

Oh really? you mean high school coaches did that to the players when they came to try out for club? There has got to be someplace where these things can be reported. Also heard from another friend that this club that we are talking about, they "hold" spots for players and if they don't show up at tryouts they will have supplementals. But the worse is they still hold up 1/2 players while their "chosen" one shows up and then leave the stand by ones high and dry, not even try to place them anywhere.

Anonymous wrote:As a parent, I don't feel comfortable telling you what to do because I have a limited understanding of your circumstances and consequences. I suggest that you talk to the MVSA club director. We heard her talking about club shenanigans during tryouts and she seemed like she cared a lot about the rules. I feel like she is the kind of person who would give you the best advice for your circumstances.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you ya there will definitely be retaliation based on how that club works. I did see that policy on CHRVA website but need an anonymous way because they just had a coach get a position at CHRVA last year so it will definitely get around to them

There are several ways to handle this, but staying anonymous could be difficult. If you have written proof of what happened, you may not need to disclose your name, just show the CHRVA staff (either ethics or president) the document with information identifying your player removed.

If you don’t have written proof, you probably need to talk directly with a CHRVA leader and that will require you to disclose personal info.

In either case, consider not just the impact on your player but the fact that many other players were probably treated the same way. The CHRVA rules exist to protect players from exactly these situations, where coaches can use their power to coerce players to accept offers. If this happens and no one speaks up, the coach will feel empowered to do it again and the next time it happens it may be worse. It’s never easy to step forward and call out bad behavior when there are consequences to your DD for doing so, but it’s the right thing to do.

Also, if you tried out at multiple clubs and a different one gave you an offer, you could have talked to the new club about helping you during open tryouts. There are many MD clubs that follow the rules and help players when they hear of rules violations, but they can’t help you much once you’ve accepted an offer with another club.

Many MD high school coaches did this during the club tryout hinting less playing time in high school if not sign immediately. We should report this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you ya there will definitely be retaliation based on how that club works. I did see that policy on CHRVA website but need an anonymous way because they just had a coach get a position at CHRVA last year so it will definitely get around to them

There are several ways to handle this, but staying anonymous could be difficult. If you have written proof of what happened, you may not need to disclose your name, just show the CHRVA staff (either ethics or president) the document with information identifying your player removed.

If you don’t have written proof, you probably need to talk directly with a CHRVA leader and that will require you to disclose personal info.

In either case, consider not just the impact on your player but the fact that many other players were probably treated the same way. The CHRVA rules exist to protect players from exactly these situations, where coaches can use their power to coerce players to accept offers. If this happens and no one speaks up, the coach will feel empowered to do it again and the next time it happens it may be worse. It’s never easy to step forward and call out bad behavior when there are consequences to your DD for doing so, but it’s the right thing to do.

Also, if you tried out at multiple clubs and a different one gave you an offer, you could have talked to the new club about helping you during open tryouts. There are many MD clubs that follow the rules and help players when they hear of rules violations, but they can’t help you much once you’ve accepted an offer with another club.

Anonymous wrote:Thank you ya there will definitely be retaliation based on how that club works. I did see that policy on CHRVA website but need an anonymous way because they just had a coach get a position at CHRVA last year so it will definitely get around to them

Anonymous wrote:At the MD club we were at last 2 years, one of the coaches actually pressurizes players to sign and return agreement right there or they don't get the spot. This is totally against CHRVA rules and year after year she coaxes people into signing up (either because they are new or if they are waitlisted by intimidating them by saying they might not make it anywhere and this is guaranteed). This seems totally against CHRVA rules but is there a way to file complaint anonymously?

Reporting a Recruiting Violation Recruiting violations must be reported within 30 days of the infraction or discovery of the infraction. Reports must be submitted in writing, via USPS or email to the Juniors Rules and Ethics Chairperson or any member of the CHRVA Board of Directors. Include the details of the violation, the player(s), the club involved as well as the name, phone, and address of the individual filing the complaint. Phone calls and in person conversations are not considered valid reports. Confirmation of the receipt of complaint will be sent to the complainant within seven (7) business days.

Once a decision on a recruiting violation has been made by the Chesapeake Region, a response will be sent to the appropriate parties. The decision could result in a sanction against an individual(s), team(s) and/or a club up to and including suspension, monetary fines and the inability to register a team with CHRVA. Appeals can be made following the CHRVA Handbook procedures. All sanctions will be issued in accordance per the CHRVA Handbook or USAV policies.