Anonymous wrote:Men always affair down. My ex cheated with his admin assistant, who objectively looks like a horse and as the personality of a doormat. However, she thinks that he is the most important and interesting person in the world, and he likes how that makes him feel. Suddenly he’s into horses.

No, they don't. Some women who have posted on here believe their husbands cheated down on them, and we'll take their word for it, but often, men cheat with a hot younger woman they meet through work who is looking for a free ride. The wealthier and more powerful your husband is, the more likely they are to cheat on you with someone more attractive than you because they have options. Fortunately, so do you because you own half of everything.

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Anonymous wrote:Men always affair down. My ex cheated with his admin assistant, who objectively looks like a horse and as the personality of a doormat. However, she thinks that he is the most important and interesting person in the world, and he likes how that makes him feel. Suddenly he’s into horses.

Yup, it's this. Mine cheated while I was pregnant and in the months after having DC with a woman who was older, heavier, uglier, broke, and a drug addict.

It's because the attention and focus were on me and the baby, and he needed someone to make him feel special because I could no longer fawn over him and wasn't impressed with his knowledge of The Godfather when I was trying to learn to breastfeed and care for a baby while juggling work and the house. She thought the sun, moon, and stars of his "knowledge".

Wow sorry you went through this too but interestingly also happe Ed to me during pregnancy and post partum (I'm the pp who said exs ap had braces)

Another cheated down poster, and same age not even younger. Dumber, butter face, gut, awful hair, no job, unworldly (never had a passport at age 50 or been out of the country), loved memes and social media.

And the sex—come on—there is nothing we hadn’t done or tried and we’re still having weekly sex 25 years in.

Low self esteem and entitlement midlife liked feeling like a hero and king to someone who was way below their league.

Anonymous wrote:Men always affair down. My ex cheated with his admin assistant, who objectively looks like a horse and as the personality of a doormat. However, she thinks that he is the most important and interesting person in the world, and he likes how that makes him feel. Suddenly he’s into horses.

Yup, it's this. Mine cheated while I was pregnant and in the months after having DC with a woman who was older, heavier, uglier, broke, and a drug addict.

It's because the attention and focus were on me and the baby, and he needed someone to make him feel special because I could no longer fawn over him and wasn't impressed with his knowledge of The Godfather when I was trying to learn to breastfeed and care for a baby while juggling work and the house. She thought the sun, moon, and stars of his "knowledge".

Because the AP does things in bed that the wife is unwilling to do!

My ex cheated with someone 15 years older, 50+ lbs heavier, had metal braces, and was a dog walker. It made zero sense to me

Men can't handle their feelings, so when a woman comes along who'll excuse his bs and make him feel special, he's "vulnerable".

It's not an actual vulnerability. It's completely correctable by men taking responsibility for their own emotions instead of remaining forever codependent on women, but if his mama didn't teach him that already, good luck.

Women make this problem by excusing 'boys will be boys' culture, not getting their sons dolls, and deeply imprinting toxic masculinity before the kids are in 3rd grade. And yes, women, because dads don't have to parent, that's soft skill "feminine" work. He's a "provider"

See how all the gender roles lead back to the same place? Dysfunctional, emotionally-stunted male adults who don't think they're suppose to even have feelings, let alone be responsible for making sure their actions aren't strictly governed by them.

But look at how many of these cheater threads are "I had no choice..." "I was powerless..." "I couldn't resist..."

Beyonce, Shakira, Diana, etc...

Beauty guarantees nothing.

Ask Donald Trump.

Anonymous wrote:Variety. Every jay jay gets old after a while, no matter how much you attempt to "spice it up".

This. Men don't always cheat down. Sometimes, they cheat up and sometimes down; it's all subjective. The one objective thing is that it's someone different than their wife.

Variety. Every jay jay gets old after a while, no matter how much you attempt to "spice it up".

Men pick beauty over personality and compatibility and once novelty wears off, they cheat.

Anonymous wrote:Men always affair down. My ex cheated with his admin assistant, who objectively looks like a horse and as the personality of a doormat. However, she thinks that he is the most important and interesting person in the world, and he likes how that makes him feel. Suddenly he’s into horses.

Sounds like an upgrade to me.

Men always affair down. My ex cheated with his admin assistant, who objectively looks like a horse and as the personality of a doormat. However, she thinks that he is the most important and interesting person in the world, and he likes how that makes him feel. Suddenly he’s into horses.

Why do it? A guy I'm dating cheating on his ex wife who he said was beautiful with a one time affair. He said he never cheated before. His reasoning was that he didn't feel needed or wanted. Which seems like a sorry excuse.