Anonymous wrote:(California mom who posted above.)
My daughter really enjoyed her (second choice) sorority (decided to love the house that loved her back) and said rush was not meaningfully different than any other competitive school. There are always some who are disappointed, I get that. Periods of institutional growth can be challenging.
She was very committed freshman/sophomore years. Then her circle grew with her new professional interest and Greek life became more of a pleasant side group. That happens, especially as they mature into adults, and what they value in relationships grows.
I can’t imagine choosing one school over another based on the rush process alone. Auburn has a really robust Greek scene. It also has a huge bar scene. Lots of apartment parties. Pool parties. Plenty of clubs and interest groups. Mine was not a big drinker and loved playing volleyball and run club. I point this out because we are not a “Southern” family and our daughter felt there were myriad paths socially, for all sorts of people. Greek life was just one of them.
You can’t imagine it because you live in California. UMC southern moms prep their girls for years to include getting them to network in high school to help get certain houses. It’s very important to them and continues to be important to them as adults. Southern culture is all about belonging to groups.