Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 18:25     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I find it strange when the entire family (mom, dad, siblings, sometimes even extended family) come to every game. Time is finite. Let the siblings go do something else.


+1. I know a family like this.


This is very normal in our community. We have a very tight knit community and the siblings play during games. It's actually really nice. You barely have to make much effort to get together with families because you see them so often and have strong relationships. I wouldn't trade that but everyone is different. I grew up like you and didn't have much of a community at all.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 17:45     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
Anonymous wrote:I find it strange when the entire family (mom, dad, siblings, sometimes even extended family) come to every game. Time is finite. Let the siblings go do something else.


+1. I know a family like this.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 15:27     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
Anonymous wrote:I find it strange when the entire family (mom, dad, siblings, sometimes even extended family) come to every game. Time is finite. Let the siblings go do something else.


You don't get it.

There's usually a conversation that goes like this the night before:

"Hey Billy, you want to go Sally's softball game tomorrow?"

"What time is at?"

"1:00"

"sure, I'll bring the football and we can throw in between innings"

It's almost never forced; its just kids and families spending time together.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 15:04     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
Anonymous wrote:I find it strange when the entire family (mom, dad, siblings, sometimes even extended family) come to every game. Time is finite. Let the siblings go do something else.


Our kids know they support each other. You can find it strange, but that's what we do.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 15:04     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know families where situations dictate that this effectively is what happens. Mom is the team manager on Larlo's team and Dad coaches Larla's team so 95% of the time they go with the kid whose team they volunteer for. But on those 5% where there's no overlap they are always super grateful to be able to switch and show up for the other kid.

I also know people who divide the "task" by dropping off kids as young as 6 or 7 to be babysat by team personnel (who are, at this age, rec coach volunteers) while they go do something like golf. As a team mom, that was fun.


Really? If someone tried to get me to watch their child (without asking and clearing it with me first) I would spend the entire time texting that parent asking them to come back stat. I would then tell them that is a no go situation.


In a team sport situation where you are team personnel (even if a volunteer), how exactly are you supposed to say no unless the league dictates parents have to stay? I don't think you can. But man, is it tough to watch a kid do something cool, look to the sidelines, and remember no family member saw it. Then you tell mom about it later and she's like "Oh yeah, well, I was golfing with a friend."
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 15:02     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
Anonymous wrote:I find it strange when the entire family (mom, dad, siblings, sometimes even extended family) come to every game. Time is finite. Let the siblings go do something else.


I was always self-conscious when my whole family showed up to our kids’ rec events. For a couple years, DH coached DS’ rec team so DS2 and DD wanted to come along with me to watch, so oh well.

Years later, kids are in HS and one in college, and DH and I go to the HS sports events. If our two HS kids have scheduling conflicts, we’ll split up and go to different games, but each of us isn’t assigned exclusively to one kid. It’s whoever prefers to go to which that determines who goes.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 15:00     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
We each take turns if the two events are at the same time. If there is no conflict, we both go.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 15:00     Subject: Re:s/o - going to your kids' sports
Everyone handles this differently. I have friends where the family culture is everyone does everything together all the time. That's never been how my spouse and I operated. We've always done some dividing and conquering. As kids are older too, you really have to divide and conquer.

I do have one sport in particular one of my kid plays I can't stand watching. The parents are awful and the environment is just not fun at all for me. So I avoid that one at all costs. Some parents on that team probably think we are weird. Don't care.



Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 14:53     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
Anonymous wrote:I know families where situations dictate that this effectively is what happens. Mom is the team manager on Larlo's team and Dad coaches Larla's team so 95% of the time they go with the kid whose team they volunteer for. But on those 5% where there's no overlap they are always super grateful to be able to switch and show up for the other kid.

I also know people who divide the "task" by dropping off kids as young as 6 or 7 to be babysat by team personnel (who are, at this age, rec coach volunteers) while they go do something like golf. As a team mom, that was fun.


Really? If someone tried to get me to watch their child (without asking and clearing it with me first) I would spend the entire time texting that parent asking them to come back stat. I would then tell them that is a no go situation.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 14:52     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
I know parents with more than 2 kids who divide things up- more on what they like more. Like, I will go to the swim meets for Larla and Larlo and you go to basketball with Frank.

There are kids on my kids soccer team where I have only ever met the fathers
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 14:51     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
We mostly divide and conquer, but alternate kids. And I sometimes think we may be judged for that when there are other entire families showing up.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 14:51     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
I find it strange when the entire family (mom, dad, siblings, sometimes even extended family) come to every game. Time is finite. Let the siblings go do something else.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 14:32     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
I'm a single mom and just never went to any track & field stuff. It was on the other side of the city from both home and work and went to everything else but that.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 14:25     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
I know families where situations dictate that this effectively is what happens. Mom is the team manager on Larlo's team and Dad coaches Larla's team so 95% of the time they go with the kid whose team they volunteer for. But on those 5% where there's no overlap they are always super grateful to be able to switch and show up for the other kid.

I also know people who divide the "task" by dropping off kids as young as 6 or 7 to be babysat by team personnel (who are, at this age, rec coach volunteers) while they go do something like golf. As a team mom, that was fun.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2024 14:21     Subject: s/o - going to your kids' sports
Anybody know people who divide this "task" by assigning each parent to a kid and basically mom goes to all of Larla's stuff and dad goes to all of Larlo's stuff? Am I the only one that finds this so strange?