Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:59     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
So that's data, though it's not a clear cause-effect. The thoughtless statement, though, causes more harm than good obviously. Especially for people who left difficult marriages for good reasons. What a stupid thing to say. Don't let it deter you, op.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:59     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's not discrimination. Discrimination would be stating that they will not admit your student if they do not come from an intact family.

The person who stated that is just stating that the data shows that students from intact families are more likely to have the stats that will get them admitted.






These are immutable traits. That is very different.

So if she said that she noticed being white, black or Asian meant you got in, that would be cool?


Considering 50% of the crowd were seniors I'd argue it's the same with family status. It's not like that senior's parents are suddenly going to be married again by November 1. It's a completely unhelpful, discriminatory comment to make.


It is not discriminatory. You may think it is rude, but it is not discrimination.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:58     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's not discrimination. Discrimination would be stating that they will not admit your student if they do not come from an intact family.

The person who stated that is just stating that the data shows that students from intact families are more likely to have the stats that will get them admitted.



So if she said that she noticed being white, black or Asian meant you got in, that would be cool?


No of course not, but that is nothing close to what she said. She stated a fact about how a child's environment -- on average -- affects academic success in high school. Your example is referencing immutable racial characteristics. Completely different.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:58     Subject: Re:Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:OP is stirring the pot. Ex must have the kids this weekend hit the sauce early this morning. Don't feed this nonsense people.


No I was with my kid, who comes from a "broken home" and glad probably wasn't paying attention at that moment.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:56     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's not discrimination. Discrimination would be stating that they will not admit your student if they do not come from an intact family.

The person who stated that is just stating that the data shows that students from intact families are more likely to have the stats that will get them admitted.



These are immutable traits. That is very different.

So if she said that she noticed being white, black or Asian meant you got in, that would be cool?


Considering 50% of the crowd were seniors I'd argue it's the same with family status. It's not like that senior's parents are suddenly going to be married again by November 1. It's a completely unhelpful, discriminatory comment to make.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:56     Subject: Re:Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
OP is stirring the pot. Ex must have the kids this weekend hit the sauce early this morning. Don't feed this nonsense people.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:53     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:I was absolutely floored yesterday to hear this not only said aloud by the person presenting but repeated. I thought it was a joke until she repeated it.

The words were - "I tell parents the one thing that will get their kid into college is staying married"

So all these colleges are woke about everything else but it's still cool to throw shade at family status?


???
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:51     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's not discrimination. Discrimination would be stating that they will not admit your student if they do not come from an intact family.

The person who stated that is just stating that the data shows that students from intact families are more likely to have the stats that will get them admitted.



These are immutable traits. That is very different.

So if she said that she noticed being white, black or Asian meant you got in, that would be cool?
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:50     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:That's not discrimination. Discrimination would be stating that they will not admit your student if they do not come from an intact family.

The person who stated that is just stating that the data shows that students from intact families are more likely to have the stats that will get them admitted.



So if she said that she noticed being white, black or Asian meant you got in, that would be cool?
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:49     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
That's not discrimination. Discrimination would be stating that they will not admit your student if they do not come from an intact family.

The person who stated that is just stating that the data shows that students from intact families are more likely to have the stats that will get them admitted.

Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:45     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:What's the context?


This was a campus tour presentation and this was her observation on what matters among admitted families. According to her admitted students are more likely to come from intact homes.

Not test scores, nothing else apparently. Marital status...
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:45     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:I was absolutely floored yesterday to hear this not only said aloud by the person presenting but repeated. I thought it was a joke until she repeated it.

The words were - "I tell parents the one thing that will get their kid into college is staying married"

So all these colleges are woke about everything else but it's still cool to throw shade at family status?


What is false about the statement? There is plenty of evidence that children from intact families have, in the aggregate, more academic success.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:44     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
Anonymous wrote:I was absolutely floored yesterday to hear this not only said aloud by the person presenting but repeated. I thought it was a joke until she repeated it.

The words were - "I tell parents the one thing that will get their kid into college is staying married"

So all these colleges are woke about everything else but it's still cool to throw shade at family status?


My guess is there is statistical evidence to back that statement up as fact.

-- Divorced dad whose children are both in college, but it was a rough adolescence.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:43     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
What's the context?
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2024 08:40     Subject: Divorced family discrimination at college presentation
I was absolutely floored yesterday to hear this not only said aloud by the person presenting but repeated. I thought it was a joke until she repeated it.

The words were - "I tell parents the one thing that will get their kid into college is staying married"

So all these colleges are woke about everything else but it's still cool to throw shade at family status?