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Anonymous wrote:If I'm judging, it's usually the person's attitude or facial expressions.

This is it for me. I don't care what you look like - if your smile is warm and friendly, I like you until you give me a reason not to.

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i also check peoples nails.
i judge if you are a designer whore

How kind they are to me, or not.

I’m not fat but have a square build and a homely, plain face. People definitely ignore me or reciprocate less energy than what I give them when we have initial interactions.

My DH is a slender, shorter Asian man. He is treated as invisible in most situations.

We have a very cute child, so when we are out and about with her the difference in how we are treated is really interesting. People seem to give us more attention and kindness as adults when they piece together that she’s ours- she looks just like both of us but somehow it works out to attractive when combined into one kid.

We joke that we should take her to job interviews or important meetings so that people will be in a better mindset when they interact with us.

Piercings. Any more than 2 simple earrings and you’re dead to me.

I judge based on the whole package. For example, if a person is heavy but dressed and groomed nicely it goes a long way. I do this with both men and women and the race is irrelevant.

Anonymous wrote:Everyone judges other people. I’m curious if weight is really number one for most people despite everything else. The more I weighed, the more I was treated in a less friendly manner when dressed casually. This remains interesting to me given how casual the local area dresses post-Covid.

Smell would probably be the one aspect I notice first on others. Men and women equally across my own race and others.


What do you judge others for first? Is it the same if the person is the same sex, gender or nationality/race/culture as you or does it differ?

I judge if they are kind or not. How someone treats others and me is very important to me. I judge a holes, that's it.

I’ve never judge people on weight.

Smell definitely. BO or too much perfume or cologne.

I judge people who are pushy about politics or make political jokes in group or social settings, like at a party or at work, where they don’t really know everyone.

I also judge incompetent people. Those who are always late, with whatever they had to do for the project, didn’t follow through on... it’s always the same people.

I was born with and still have a very severe physical disability that’s very obvious when I walk. I know I was judged by that during my school years especially regarding wanting to date. It bothered me a lot but over time I got over it as I accomplished a lot and built up my self confidence. So when I judge someone it’s not about their physical appearance. I know plenty of very attractive people who turned out to be complete a—holes! Sex/ethnicity/race are not factors for me. However, I do quickly judge someone covered in tattoos and I know I shouldn’t.

I don’t know if it’s judging so much as noticing and that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. For each person it’s something different, it depends on what it is that I notice and then I formulate an opinion. Sometimes those opinions are good sometimes they are not nice.

Anonymous wrote:If I'm judging, it's usually the person's attitude or facial expressions.

This is it for me. I don't care what you look like - if your smile is warm and friendly, I like you until you give me a reason not to.

I never really judge based on physical appearance, it’s really based on what they say and how they say it.

I judge so fast there's no way to slow it down to know what I take in first.

I get what you are saying about weight, I'm overweight as well and people treat me very differently than they did when I was thin.

But if I'm judging people it's almost always behavior. There is a coworker I cannot help but judge constantly -- she's late virtually every day, walks out of meetings to take personal calls, and actually left a training the other day to go get coffee. Apparently her time is more important than ours.

But yeah, if I'm judging it's probably based on behavior that is rude.

If I'm judging, it's usually the person's attitude or facial expressions.

Everyone judges other people. I’m curious if weight is really number one for most people despite everything else. The more I weighed, the more I was treated in a less friendly manner when dressed casually. This remains interesting to me given how casual the local area dresses post-Covid.

Smell would probably be the one aspect I notice first on others. Men and women equally across my own race and others.


What do you judge others for first? Is it the same if the person is the same sex, gender or nationality/race/culture as you or does it differ?