Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have absolutely no idea what my senior eats. Nor do I care.

So weird!

So is controlling every bite they eat but you do you. I’m sure they’ll do well in college with the freshman 20+

There’s a huge range between not knowing or caring what your senior eats and controlling every bite. But you know that. Touched a nerve, did I?

NP. I love it when people are intentionally rude to someone (“So weird!”) and then the person comes back at them equally, and the person who made the initial snarky comment says, “Touched a nerve, did I?” As if she is so superior and insightful. No, witch, you just insulted someone. What kind of response did you expect?

My senior ds has developed a terrible diet with a ton of sugar and fast food the last few months. So yes, now I am.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have absolutely no idea what my senior eats. Nor do I care.

So weird!

So is controlling every bite they eat but you do you. I’m sure they’ll do well in college with the freshman 20+

There’s a huge range between not knowing or caring what your senior eats and controlling every bite. But you know that. Touched a nerve, did I?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have absolutely no idea what my senior eats. Nor do I care.

So weird!

So is controlling every bite they eat but you do you. I’m sure they’ll do well in college with the freshman 20+

Anonymous wrote:I have absolutely no idea what my senior eats. Nor do I care.

So weird!

Anonymous wrote:Of course I keep track of what my kids eat. My oldest is in college and has pre-diabetes (he's very thin and has no sweet tooth, it's likely genetic). He tries, but he needs reminders to watch his refined carb intake, and he needs reminders to exercise. My second is in high school, and cooks some of her meals when I'm not there. I check in to make sure it's not all carbs and fruit, and that she's included some protein and veggies. She's still learning.

And if your reminders are ignored (which they probably are)?

Anonymous wrote:Of course I keep track of what my kids eat. My oldest is in college and has pre-diabetes (he's very thin and has no sweet tooth, it's likely genetic). He tries, but he needs reminders to watch his refined carb intake, and he needs reminders to exercise. My second is in high school, and cooks some of her meals when I'm not there. I check in to make sure it's not all carbs and fruit, and that she's included some protein and veggies. She's still learning.

What do the reminders to your college son look like?

Are you telling us you don’t know where she eats dinner (or breakfast or lunch) and how she gets that food?

I’m awake when my HSers get up so I see them make breakfast and pack their lunches. If they plan to get lunch off campus, it usually gets mentioned during conversation. We keep a dinner plate waiting if a kid misses due to work/EC or they tell us dinner plans so we know not to wait/make plate.

Your daughter still lives at home so I wonder how you all become so disconnected at meal time.

Anonymous wrote:At 17-18, they are not in control of this- even if you wanted to be. The most you can do is provide heathy foods in the house and not give them money for garbage food. But after that, if they chose to eat junk outside the house and buy a bunch of takeout with the own money, that’s on them.

This. Teach your children well, and let them live their lives.

Of course I keep track of what my kids eat. My oldest is in college and has pre-diabetes (he's very thin and has no sweet tooth, it's likely genetic). He tries, but he needs reminders to watch his refined carb intake, and he needs reminders to exercise. My second is in high school, and cooks some of her meals when I'm not there. I check in to make sure it's not all carbs and fruit, and that she's included some protein and veggies. She's still learning.

At 17-18, they are not in control of this- even if you wanted to be. The most you can do is provide heathy foods in the house and not give them money for garbage food. But after that, if they chose to eat junk outside the house and buy a bunch of takeout with the own money, that’s on them.

Of course . I will shove vegetables and fruits, fiber and protein down their mouths until I can't anymore.

If she is spending her own money, I would leave it alone. If she's putting it on my credit card, then yes, I would have a talk with her.

I have absolutely no idea what my senior eats. Nor do I care.

We have two kids. Oldest has graduated and our youngest is a senior this year. She’s pretty self sufficient and has a job and lots of extracurricular activities.

I make 1-2 meals a day and she’s usually not home for most of them but I have leftovers in the fridge.

I noticed recently it doesn’t seem like she’s eating at home. She is still a healthy weight and I do believe she’s eating, just not at home.

So I realize I have no idea when and what she eats. Should this be concerning? Is it time to let it go and hope she’s eating relatively healthy and routinely?

I gently brought it up and she seems to eat at practice or get food out.