Anonymous wrote:I mean your 'honesty' was well you are horrible and I am a saint. You didn't take any accountability either. Honestly isn't really when you just blame everyone else but act like you are righteous. And given your disdain and disgust for them I am sure there are many things you have said and done that weren't perfect either.
OP here. I know I’m not perfect. But when she asked me why I am cold and distant, well, I have reasons for being distant to protect myself. She has blamed me for many of my husband’s decisions or actions/inactions over the years: that hasn’t engendered trust.
She asked me a question, and I answered. If she had approached me more openly and framed it a different way, I can see how the conversation could have gone a different way. I understand that she has been hurt by my distance, but it didn’t come from nowhere. And she couldn’t give me one thing that I’ve said or done that has hurt her that I can apologize for. I would be happy to if there was something I said or did that she wanted to bring to my attention. And I did acknowledge to her that I’m sure the distance has been painful. She said she appreciated that.